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FEEDBACKS - PART 9
January 26,
2007
"Oh my goodness! This
was the most touching video I have seen. I am employed in a nursing
home and see the elderly everyday. They are not my own mom and dad but
they are someone's and I try to love and understand them all. If only
everyone could do the same, including their children. Thanks so much
for sharing this with us and God Bless!!
"I love this video
and would love to play it at church for a special service that we are
having. The pastor is preaching on Husbands and Wives and Couples are
actually saying things to each other and their children!!!! This would
be perfect to play on the overhead screen!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks so much!"
"I am a Licensed
Clinical Social Worker, with a Certification in Gerontology and
Thanatology. I work part time as a Hospice Social Worker and deal with
families facing the decline of their parents. I also do a support
group for caregivers of people with Alzheimer's. Your presentation is
a poignant way of getting the message across. This is absolutely
wonderful! Great work, thank you for doing this."
"I would LOVE to see
this same principle applied to parents who are now at the age where
they become the child, and the child becomes the parent. The same
philosophies in reverse can be applied: Mom, Dad, you taught me to
ride a bike by pushing me gently. Now that you cannot walk, please
allow me to push you gently in your wheelchair. Your wheelchair allows
you to be mobile, it does not mean you have to stay home. A loving
son."
January 25,
2007
"Thank you for the
beautiful and understanding video. It said everything I wanted to say
to my children as I grow older. I am 65 years old and this really hit
home. I shared this with everyone that was a parent or a child with
parents that are senior citizens on my e-mail list. I know they will
thank me. In Christian love, Nan G. Rowe---- Virginia"
"This was one of the
most touching emails I have ever received. It brought tears to my eyes
and makes you really see what all your parents have done for you over
so many years. It makes you stop and think about your own life and
your own kids. I was so moved by this and I will definitely pass this
on to others. This is the first time I have ever voiced my opinion and
gave feedback. Thank you to whomever wrote this. ITS BEAUTIFUL. Kathy"
"Thank you for such a
well deserved and beautiful tribute for parents. My mom had been very
sick and needed the assistance of her husband and family on a daily
basis for things we take for granted every day. Mom passed away on Nov
7, 2006 and we have no regrets. We were there along side our dad on a
daily basis to ensure Mom's last years were spent at home with her
husband and family. We ensured she lived a full life filled love,
family, memories and respect. Today, we have so many beautiful
memories that will never be taken away from us. Your message is right
on the mark. Some day we will be where our parents are today. God
Bless, Terri"
January 24,
2007
"This is the most
beautiful thing I have ever received on my computer. Everyone should
see and enjoy this wonderful message.. Thank you for sharing it with
all of us...Tom Logullo"
"Thank you for the
beautiful site--- this would be great viewing for all care givers
family or not---- as these people have given more than to their own
children, but to grandchildren, neighbors, nieces ,nephews. I work at
a nursing center and know how much having a young child coming in to
the home can do for these residents. Anyways thank you and I will be
sharing this site with many."
"After caring for my
parents for five years before they died just over a year ago – and
just 10 weeks apart, I found Parents' Wish to be incredibly moving. I
think every picture and every word we lived through. Thank you so much
for it and please let me know when it is available on CD. Janice
Burzlaff"
"As someone who has
an 88 year old Mother, this really hits home. It makes me understand
and to put things in perspective. God Bless, Maxine"
"How very true that
is. I lost my mother this past summer after of 5 1/2 year struggle
with dementia and health problems caused by a massive stroke. I was
there to help her get dressed, hold her hand when she walked, also
helped to feed her in the last years, a complete role reversal; the
child acting as the parent to the parent. I have the utmost gratitude
for those people who strive to make the last days of our loved parents
the very best they can be and give them the praise and encouragement,
love and respect that they always accept with pleasure and humble
grace. They are the angels on earth that God has sent to help our
frail and ailing parents. Thank You! Grace Assink"
"A very touching art
of truth. My mother had dementia and I spent each Wednesday with her
holding her hand and sharing with her. Even when they don't know who
you are, it is very important you be there for them. It is not always
understood by all your siblings, but it is very important you
understand and trust in God to do the right thing for someone who has
given so generously. My prayers are extended to those responsible for
this wonderful message. May God embrace you all."
"Wow, did that ever
hit home. Thanks."
January 23,
2007
"I was one of the
numerous receivers of this slideshow and it indeed touched and moved
me...I just lost my mother a year ago, but I haven't recovered yet
from the loss.. She suffered a severe stroke resulting her dementia...
she suffered for 11 months of getting back to being a baby again... I
mean, being taken cared of.. carrying her to change places, changing
her diapers, feeding her through her NGT, wiping her mouth when food
wasn't easy for her to swallow... my gosh... your slideshow reminded
me of my mother, if only she was able to speak clearly then, perhaps
those were the words she might want to tell me... I just felt her
position then when I was still a kid, that eventually we changed
place.... and now, it was my turn.. telling that to my kids..."
"I'm sorry, I just got so carried away... but actually,
I just wrote
to hand my appreciation to your effort of doing this... as this may
reach many people and reflect on their relationships with their
parents and their children as well. I believe your efforts have paid off... Congratulations.... Good luck.. and God bless you more in every way."
"A friend sent this
to me ........WOW Praise the Lord and thanks to all of you for such
beautiful insight....."
January 22,
2007
"My computer has been
a real joy to me. Some of the email takes my breath away with it's
deep meaning and beauty. I especially like musical backgrounds but
never had a favourite vocalist until Josh came along. This
presentation of Parents' Wish surely seems to be directly created for
me. I am in my mid 60's and have just been diagnosed with early
dementia. The warmth and intimacy of this is more powerful than
anything I have ever seen. I have already told my family not to try
and keep me at home when I don't even know where I am. I know they
won't forget I exist. I took care of my parents before there were
nursing homes. Dad was put into a home for just a year before he
passed. He was actually happier in there because he was with people
his age. Our children were just toddlers then and my days were pretty
full. Once he was in the home I would make a point of one on one
visits with him. So many special memories of those visits are branded
into my heart and soul. *J"
"This is great and
soooo true. But what is sad, some children does not take care of their
parents and does not take the time for them as we get older. This
really hits home. Keep up the good work, this really tells it all. God
bless you, Carolyn"
"The video portion
was superb but the volume is too loud."
"This was great
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God bless you !!!!!!!!!"
"This says everything
that is in my heart and I am sure did the same for older parents
everywhere. What a beautiful E-Mail. Thanks"
"Absolutely awesome."
"OH my god This was
absolutely beautiful and so true. I worked in nursing home's and
hospital's since I was 17-50 year's old and loved to listen to the
elderly tell their stories. Taking care of anyone's parent was a
privilege. I also helped take care of our mother when she was dying
with cancer at the age of 48. This video brought back many memories,
all good one's. I will send this on to everyone I know including my
daughter who by the way is wonderful to me. She actually moved into my
house with her family to take care of me during my three surgery's. I
do believe many more grown children should see this and take time out
of their busy lives to talk to their loved one's more often. This
video brought many tear's and good memories. Thank you so much. Gail,
Maine, USA"
January 21,
2007
"I am so truly
touched by this presentation, that I wish to buy 4 copies. Will there
ever be one that is from grandparents? We raised a grandchild
exclusively for 8 years. The parents then refused any further
interaction from or with us and I would love to have a copy for her to
keep."
"Thank you for a
wonderful presentation. I can't wait to share it with my friends and
family. My grandmother is still living @ 98 years old and we have seen
all of these aging aspects. My parents are in their mid-70's and I
know that I will need these reminders in the future. I look forward to
ordering a CD."
"I received this as
an attachment to an email I received a few months back and was so
touched by it that I made sure to save it. Unfortunately, I forgot all
about it until today when I took my mom out for lunch and ended up
getting into this big argument with her about her constant lapse of
memory. She's only 67 years old and for some reason I felt that this
was too soon for senility to set in. She said I nag her too much and
put her down whenever she has these episodes which lately have come
quite frequently. To make a long story short, we ended up in this very
heated and emotional outbreak where we both said things to each other
that were hurtful but unintentional. For my part, I know that it has a
lot to do with my lack of patience and understanding... But it wasn't
until I left her, still in tears, and went home... that I remembered
this slideshow... and boy, I wish I could bring back the time so I
could do it differently this time. Now, I understand...I'm sorry,
mom."
"AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks"
"Both of my parents
have passed now and my only child a daughter and I do not always get
along very well. I sent this to her and like myself she was awe struck
and rivers of tears flowed. I hope when my turn comes to be cared for
she will remember this so that I may live out the rest of my life with
love and dignity. This touches me so profoundly because my father had
a stroke that completely altered his memory and my mother had
Alzheimer. Everyday was a struggle caring for these two people I loved
more than life itself. Thank you so much."
January 20,
2007
"This site is the
most touching one I have ever seen. It is so true to me as I have a 96
year old mother and a 21 year old son. I am 57 and in very bad health.
Maybe this site and the words will touch my son as much as it touched
me. I will be forwarding this one to all my friends and to their
children. May this help all of us to understand all the generations
now and forever. God Bless You for your time to make this possible
Linda Flanary."
"Very Beautiful...Had
me in tears!!! Thanks for sharing that!!!"
"Emotional, moving,
inspirational + exactly what we'd like to tell our children but for
reason can't. Especially in these exact words! I sent it to my
children immediately with directions to read + listen to each + every
word carefully. WOW!"
"This is absolutely
beautiful!!!!! I cried each time I watched it and sent it on to our
children. Thank you so much. Much praise to those that put this
together.. a wonderful job done."
"I received this from
my mother today - a healthy woman of 76 who wanted us to remain
respectful of her (and my father's) worst years that are approaching.
The children of seniors need to know the limitations and realities of
aging and this is a good pop culture piece that drives the points
home. Borrowed stock photos. Borrowed music. Original idea. Well done.
J & K, Toronto."
January 19,
2007
"To the people that
are asking if the parent is wanting an assisted suicide, they have
never had the privilege of caring for an elderly parent. Every part of
this reminded me of my mother who said on more than one occasion 'I'm
ready to die', and I completely understood that she was just ready
for the pain to end and not trying to ask for an assisted suicide.
Thank you to the author of Parents' Wish, it is beautiful. I hope
people will view it with an open mind and not ask any more silly
questions like the ones I found in the FAQ. Thank you."
"This was a great
presentation and we really enjoyed it. We will surely share it with
others. Gary"
"Thank You for this
wonderful slide show. It moved me a lot and as I was watching it,
tears filled my eyes. I feel this has to be seen by everyone so that
we will look at all elders with consideration and compassion. I am
sure this is going to be one of my favourite forwards for a very long
time. The song by Josh Groban too is appropriate. Well done. Pyary
Thomson -- Dr.Thomson"
"I just loved this
slide!! You must develop more like it. It seems our world is becoming
'hard' and people shrug off their emotions too easily, and
don't give considerate thought to loved ones as they should. I
forwarded this slide to all my family and friends. Thank you for it. I
wish you much success with this website."
"Viewing this made me
sob. During the several years that my elderly parents needed me the
most, I was going through extremely difficult times. I did my best to
have patience and meet their needs; but in retrospect, I could have
done better. I wish I could go back - I would do things differently.
Please take heed all you children of elderly parents: Love and
tenderly care for your parents, especially when they need you the most
in their golden years. You will not have to live with regrets.
Anonymous."
January 18,
2007
"I wish I had
something like this to teach me about caregiving when my mother came
to live with me at 85 years of age in the 2nd stage of Alzheimer's. I
did not understand what she was going through, viz; -- her confusion,
especially her fears! I did finally go to a couple of seminars, and
learned that my anger and frustrations were 'normal', as I was
feeling like I was a mean ole' daughter, at times. I learned many
things to help me understand, and went to a weekly support group to
relax, and vent my feelings. As I sat and viewed this beautiful
presentation, I sobbed!!!! I wish that I could have my experience of
caring for my dear Mother over again, and do a much better job of
serving her. When she first passed away (1997) I had guilty feelings
so bad, I could hardly endure it sometimes. I hope that others viewing
this video will learn 'early' from it, and from what others
have experienced, by reading these feedbacks. Thank You!!! again for
this beautiful presentation. I. Butler"
"This is such a
wonderful idea to put this together. Often times elderly people are
forgotten by the their loved ones, that they struggled to raise, or
sometimes thrown into the hands of complete strangers who don't owe
them anything."
"Sir, that was very
nice. However, there was not enough time to read the notes and to see
the pictures. A 'Click' for next page would be better. Irene M.
West"
"This
is the most beautiful, poignant and astounding email I have ever
received. My husband and I are 77 and 75, respectively, and know and
feel deeply, about the way our children feel about us. Attitude is
sometimes very challenging. Hopefully, this will make them realize,
we, too, are still 'people', with an active mind, but sometimes
inactive body. We thank You, from the bottom of our heart. Love and
Family embrace them."
January 17,
2007
"Excellent. So very
touching. We read this to our supervisors at a nursing home. Every one
was touched. Thank you."
"Timeless. I am
writing my appreciation for your efforts as tears are flooding my
eyes. Thank you. Sylvia, Mount Prospect, IL."
"I received your
slide show today from a special friend and was so touched by it that I
am saving it in my favorites to be watched over and over again. I also
sent it on to all in my address book in the hopes they will keep the
message in their heart and when faced with these situations will
remember and act with love and caring. Thank you so much for sharing
this very moving slide show. It is a message that needs to be sent
around the world. C. Dawid, Connecticut"
"This is so true. It
brought tears to my eyes. I am currently caring for my 85 year old
daddy. Sometimes when I get impatient and tempted to be angry at him
for things he cannot help, he will say, 'what would I ever do
without you'. That makes everything worthwhile and I know that I
am doing what I need to do and am blessed to be able to care for him."
"These are all the
values we hold dear for our clients."
"I just saw the
slideshow and am very impressed with its message and organization."
"Very, very well
done! Thank you."
"I, as a nurse, often
try to remind families that it is hard to raise a parent. We know in
their golden years that we have to take on the role and
responsibilities for them as they did for us, when were children and
old enough, mature enough and even responsible enough and still even
as adults some depend on there parents, whether that means feeding,
bathing or changing diaper for our aging parents. They did all that
for us and now it is our turn, to take care of them. This is the life
process and the beauty of experiencing what life is all about in each
and every today and tomorrow. we must learn to be patient, considerate
and kind because we all will be there (old age) some day and would not
want to be taken care of. So for some adult children this presentation
might be an eye opener, so treat your parents the way you want to be
treated when you're old!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you, Claire"
January 16,
2007
"I found this e-mail
extremely depressing. I would not send it to my children. It would
make them feel depressed and perhaps guilty and patronized. Sorry,
it's not my cup of tea."
"I love to hear Josh
Groban. His music, set to the wording, added the right and tender
touch needed to convey the message meant here. This is a beautiful
rendition of how an older person is feeling. This message shouldn't be
limited to just the kids. No one can care for their loved one like the
family, and most of the families are feeling the guilt of placing
their loved one in an outside facility to begin with. But a lot of the
old folks don't have any family left! Everyone of these dear people
have the needs of others to listen to them, to be patient with them,
and understanding, and loved. Most likely they have given years and
years of caring, and loving themselves. They are a wealth of
knowledge, but no one wants to listen anymore. We are too busy with
our own families, and lives. Are you still blessed with your parents?
When's the last time you stopped by your folks house, and actually sat
down and listened? I didn't when I was younger, and I tried to when my
Mother was elderly. I tried to 'do' much for her, all my health would
allow, especially in her last days. But I can see where I should have
done a lot more! Especially the patience! Do it now. Hindsight is no
good after the fact. REMEMBER.: You might just be one person to the
world, but you might just be the world to one person! Thanks for this
wonderful site. BR"
"This is the most
beautiful and heart breaking thing I've ever seen. Although my parents
have been gone for years it makes me think of the things I should have
done differently. Parents leave a gap that can never be filled again
after they are gone. We are all human but we also need to step back
and look at our past and this certainly has done it for me. Thank you
to whom ever made this...it's beautifully done."
"I am a therapist
working with families that have dying parents or parents that have
died recently and I enjoyed your slide presentation."
"This is the most
wonderful message about the older folk, witch I'm becoming. I wish all
the younger generation could see this and understand. But most today
don't have time for the old. Wonderful message."
"That was soooo
awesome. As a Mother etc, at 71 it's been the best read I've seen in a
longggg time... Thanks, whomever you are. And God Bless you and
yours."
January 15,
2007
"That is the best
thing I have seen in a long time. My Dad died 16 years ago My Son
Tyler does not remember his Grandpa but he has a picture of my Dad and
him on the day he was born just minutes after he was born. He is 16
years old now. And he is in Show Choir now so this song was a great
thing to hear now. The message was a great thing to see and hear now.
So thank you. Lisa Shuman"
"Thank you!! This is
the most wonderful, beautiful thing I've seen...."
"This is absolutely
beautiful. My husband and I help an elderly couple that we have known
for 22 years. We use to live next door to them. She was never able to
have children so she took our 2 children on as her 'grandchildren'.
He has a daughter who hasn't spoken to him in about 30 years. She
really needs to see this.... The Mrs. has Alzheimer's and is 80 yrs
old and Mr. will be 84 in February. He REALLY does the best he can but
is limited because of health issues. Helping them at this time in our
lives is what we feel God would have us to do. Yes it is trying..
hard.. sad.. frustrating.. maddening at times.... but we really
wouldn't trade it for all the love or money in the world. Our families
are in another state and they are really all we have here in GA. I
hope and pray this will circle around the world for all to see...Sue
Thompson"
"I just saw the video
and i cried. It is truly amazing and so so true. My mom and brother
both work in nursing homes as nursing aides. And all to often they see
the deterioration of those folks. And how they are treated by their
loved ones, as their loved ones just don't understand. I wish everyone
could see this and perhaps it could change the minds of many who have
seemed to have forgotten they to one day may be just the same as their
parents are now. This was beautiful and i am certainly going to post
it about. Thank you for this creation."
January 14,
2007
"I loved this because
so many children today forget, don't speak to their parents, because
they are so selfish, self centered (narcissists), and just plain can't
remember or don't want to remember what 'we' as parents did for
them. I am speaking of children even in their 40's. So very sad isn't
it? I will not be ashamed to say I didn't raise them this way and they
are to blame for the way they are, not I. They made their choices and
I have made mine and not afraid to speak out and say. So, many parents
are afraid to say their children are the way they are because parents
believe it reflects on themselves. It does not. Those children choose
to be the way they are. I feel sorry for them. The voice of Josh and
the words are perfect Thank You for sharing. H.J. Mahaffey Phoenix,
Arizona"
"This was an amazing
slide show. How true it is. I was not fortunate enough to be with my
parents. I am a member of Baha’i faith from Iran. We are under
prosecution and subject to humiliation, injustice, degradation,
deprived of any human rights including higher education by the current
ruling government. My point is I was not allowed to go to see my
parents nor were they allowed to come. I missed the opportunity that
many of you may have but not using it to make your parents happy. When
you make them happy, you will feel happier yourself. Please take a
moment or two now. They don’t need you in the funeral homes to cry for
them, make them laugh today. Ali Ashabi, Kitchener, Ontario, Canada"
"I cried. It put into
words watching my parents and parent-in-laws grow old. One has passed.
Two have Alzheimer's, and one a variety of problems I know they truly
only want me, their child, near. However, in our 'corporate move'
world, I am physically not as near as often as I would like to be. I
am truly blessed by a caregiver for my parents that forwarded this to
me. Caregivers, children or for hire, are all caring in all ways.
Blessed be the writer of these words and those who brought it to me."
"Thank you so much
for this, it came at the right time. I was really having a bad day, my
son and I had a big argument that morning. I was wishing my father was
around to help but he passed away 20 years ago, he would of known what
to say to me to help my son. After listening and watching your slide
show I knew my father was with me and I knew the situation with my son
would be okay. My parents raised me the best that they could, they
made me be a strong, loving person and I'm doing the same with my son,
it is okay to make mistakes as long as we learn from them and have
each other to help you through the difficult times! Thank you!"
"I'm 14 years old and
like most teenagers get into a lot of arguments with my parents. I
forget that they were kids at one time too. After watching the
slideshow I have realized that my parents are always going to be here
for me and after they die they will still look out for me. It has made
me see my life in a different way. That there are reasons for rules
and consequences for my actions. I have realized that parents don't
like punishing their kids but that we sometimes force them to do so.
Because of this show I will now be able to better understand what my
parents would like to see me do as I grow up to become an adult. I
send many thanks to the creator of this wonderful slideshow.
Sincerely, Amanda"
"Thank you for making
me cry. I had a favorite great-aunt that had Alzheimer's, from which
she eventually died. This touching video reminds me of all the good
times we shared with her and how even in her coma, when we talked to
her, we were sharing many happy memories with her. It's not what we so
much as say, as the touch and the things we do for those closest to us
that this touching video reminds us of. Thank you a hundred fold!"
"Wonderful,
wonderful!!!! Send me anything you have for info on this site. Thank
you again."
"My wife has passed
some 7 yrs ago and although I was extremely moved by your video I do
not feel it appropriate to send to my children. It is really moving
and the music was just heart wrenching. It made me think of my parents
that are still with me and in the late 70's. Thank God they are still
going strong and because they are doing so well I never gave much
thought to what would happen if they fall ill. I know I will be there
for them as I was for my Grandmother when she was placed in a Nursing
home. I would love to send this to people but the power of this
presentation is real hard for some of the people I know. A Beautiful
and strong message I think just too strong for people in our lives at
this time and in our world where there is so much guilt already."
January 13,
2007
"I believe I saw this
come through soon after it appeared on the web and was so moving to
me. I opened it up this morning and it struck me down. My mother is in
the last stages of Alzheimer's and has been declining, sometimes it
seems quickly and sometimes she seems the same when I visit her. I
went to see her on Thursday and it was so very difficult not to cry in
front of her. She was so independent and taught her children to be
just like her. Mom and Dad did it right, though we didn't think so
while we were growing up. Dad passed in 93. The words and song have so
much meaning for me, it is so very true, each word of the song and in
the slides! I have forwarded this to my daughters today and hope they
do realize we as parents really do our best. Thank you so very much!
Maryln Gliddon Mesa Arizona"
"Parents' Wish was
truly beautiful and exactly expressed my sentiments. I shared it with
my children. Josh Groban is my favourite singer and that accompaniment
was the icing on the cake. All good wishes. Fay Brydon"
January 12,
2007
"As a care taker in a
memory impairment home I can really understand everything this was
saying. As I was watching this I kept thinking of all of my residents
whose family has stopped coming because of behaviors exhibited in your
presentation and it is sad. I wish I had all of their emails so I
could send this on to them. This presentation was done very well and
in good taste. Way to go to everyone involved in its' creation. Amy."
"I just wanted to let
you know that Parents' Wish touch my heart. I work with seniors that
have Alzheimer's Disease and related illnesses. This video highlights
exactly what goes on with our residents. They are not able to feed
them selves, talk in complete sentences, or are willing to takes
showers or change their clothes every day. I have e-mailed your site
to many of friends. Thank you for acknowledging this need for
understanding."
"That was Beautiful,
I had to dry my eyes after viewing, truer words were never spoken."
"I think this email
is beautiful and I hope all children of older parents read this and
understand it. My dad has Alzheimer's and I have more patience with
him now then I have in the past. Thank you very much for sending this
to me. Diana"
"I and my husband are
the caregivers to my 97 year old mother in law. She is quite
challenging and at times I get so frustrated. Seeing this video was
just what I needed to remind me of my awesome privilege, taking care
of Mom. Thank you for this beautiful reminder. May God bless you
mightily!"
January 11,
2007
"A most beautiful and
touching writing I have ever read. Made tears come to my eyes. I sent
it to my sons. Thank you."
"Just want to share
that was the BEST e-mail I've received in a VERY long time, and I just
got it from my mother! What an awesome way to reiterate and reaffirm
what our families have done and been in our lives than with your
really well put together e-mails. They also get you to think. Thank
God above for Rocks in our lives that have raised us up to be All We
Can Be! Very Inspiring to help us continue the Tradition! Eric J"
"My parents are both
gone however I felt a strong sense they were here and reminding me
that they are too. Ii cried my eyes out! The song that went with the
message was sad alone. I sent this to my family and my children as
well. Thank you for such a beautiful piece! I am a caregiver. I take
care of seniors and when I see some that have families who just don't
care it breaks my heart! I love my job because I've learned so
much from all the people I've taken care of and my only hope is that I
brought to them some love, hope and smiles while they were here. So
love your parents, grandparents even your children cause life is too
short and will pass you by and it will then be too late to say, I'm
sorry, I love you or to give a hug. Thanks so much
for sharing this with all of us."
"I was so touched by
this that I emailed it to everyone on my contact list. My eighty-six
year old Mother has been in a nursing home for over five years now,
and sometimes my patience is not as good as it should be, especially
when it concerns to her best interests. This presentation was a
perfect reminder of the things I need to stop and think about while
caring for needs. Although she is provided excellent care in the
facility she lives in, our family stays very involved with her care
and it does create feelings of impatience and resentment at times of
which I am not proud, but I do wish all the patients and staff could
see and hear this tribute. It is a perfect reminder of how blessed we
were to have such a wonderful Mother. Thank you so much for this gift.
Barbara Jacobs"
"When I was born soon
after my mother died. My father left us, and I really don't know much
about parents' Love, But I went on to have 8 children and as this day
I have 13 living grandchildren. My Love for my children are as exact
as this message I just watched. I hope my family knows this as they
watch their dad and I grow old together. This is also my wish to my
family. Thank You, Ramona"
January 10,
2007
"I just wanted to say
that the Parents' Wish page is Beautiful! I watched the US East Coast
version, and sat here sobbing like a baby! My parents are 71 and 67,
and I can see them starting to go thru a lot of this stuff. Plus, my
mother had a stroke almost 8 years ago, she has a lot of problems
doing some things for herself, and this page really hit home! But it
also helped me a lot. I've been having some issues lately and this
helped me to deal with them. Thank you so much for putting this page
on the web!"
"BEAUTIFUL!"
"It’s difficult to
see our parents changing where the children are now the caregivers
instead of our parents. This slide helps to remind me of the times
when I, as a child, depended upon patience, guidance, time with my
family in a special way (not always to perform a duty), and
understanding of my indifference. Working with my Mom and Dad today, I
just pray for the spirit needed to always show respect and special
appreciation for the individual character that make Mom and Dad who
they are. Thank you for putting this together."
"I loved
this...Please put me on your list to send new ones.. Thanks"
"I was just sent your
Parents' Wish and I want to express how touched I was. It is truly
awesome. Great music. I have sent it to my daughter and my sister-in
-law and all my email buddy's. Thank you. Donna Bettis Illinois"
"Your message is
powerful, moving and so very important. Thank you for taking the time
to share your depth and inspire the next generation. Nancy Iankowitz"
January 9,
2007
"I don't know how to
express my feelings. I cried every time I watched this video and I
will keep it forever. I emailed it to as many people as I could,
specially the ones with older parents. I am missing my parents. They
are far away from where I live, but I'll be more in touch with them
than before. My daughter sent this to me today and I called her twice
just to say how I was affected. This is wonderful job with a wonderful
music. Thanks a million."
"My, my, my...if this
won't get to your children, nothing will... I have my Mom, 81, living
with my husband and me now, she lost her eyesight 2 years ago due to
macular degeneration...Thanks for reminding me what it is like to need
others sometimes to help you through each day...God Bless you for such
a special message! Jean Robinson"
January 8,
2007
"Congratulations on
this beautiful, powerful presentation."
"This was very
touching and yes, I did share it with many others."
"This we will all go
through if the Lord doesn't come soon. This is the most beautiful
email I have ever received. Thanks to the person or persons who put it
together and the one who sent to me. God bless all the parents of the
world. Thank you from Texas."
"This will no doubt
be the most awesome email I receive this year. Very touching to say
the least."
"I'd like to pay you
a great compliment about your Parents' Wish presentation. I'd seen it
yesterday, it was awesome, my eyes were filled with tears. Christian"
"I have this saved on
my computer since May of last year. A friend sent it to me after my
dad passed away on 3/28/06. I thought it was so very beautiful. Then
my mom passed away on 10/19/06 and the presentation became so very
real. I just came to the computer and went to it for the first time
since mom died and tears are rolling from my eyes as I type.....
mainly because of the beauty and the message you send out. My mom and
dad are together now and looking down and saying to me 'thank
you for taking such good care of us just as we took care of you'
Bless you, Emily, New Jersey"
January 7,
2007
"Thanks so very much
for putting you thoughts with music and pictures. The truths you share
I hope many will ponder and recognize, and I hope their recognition
does not come to late. Thanks again. TLH"
"Absolutely
beautiful. I sent it to my children. I love Josh Groban. I think about
you always."
"Nice video and I
wanted to add to the list of suggestions. I am divorced and living now
with a 82 year old grandmother and after 14 months or so I am still
trying to do for my grandmother what she deserves from me. Most
important... don't tell them how to do it, instead watch and learn
from one who has been in all those situations already and has learned
from a life time of experience! Thank you, Mike"
"The video is so
special to me. On June 29th, 2005, my father was diagnosed with
cancer. Dad was never sick or even in the hospital, so this was a
major blow to the whole family. After 2 months of sickness Dad passed
away in his home with family around him. At his funeral service we had
a Josh Groban song played. My parents have raised 6 children and now
it was our time to take care of Dad. We now spend a lot of time with
Mom and some days she is like a child to us and we have to care for
her like she did for us. God is guiding us to be the best we can be to
the ones we love the most. Thank you again for the lovely slideshow."
January 6,
2007
"Thank you. This
poignant message reached me – thanks to the Love of a dear, dear
Friend – at a point in my day… week… life when I needed it most. I
will view it frequently, whenever I need strength to travel a little
longer with my parents, as they take these last few steps of the wide
and deep journey they have made. Bonnie Raines, Montrose, Colorado"
"Thank you for this
most beautiful site. Choosing Josh Groban to sing just added that much
more. I cried as I listened to this. God bless you."
"I cannot thank
enough whoever put this together. As I just said to our 8 children as
I forwarded it to them, this is also from their father who is watching
over us all. Oh, how I wish computers were around 40 years ago as my
parents could have enjoyed a little of this understanding. We knew,
but words were never put down together with Josh Groban's music.
Easier to take! Thanks! Margery Cleary Mashpee, MA"
January 5,
2007
"Had to watch it
twice because I could not read the last frames through my tears! I
have not seen any things on the internet that have moved me as this
did. BEAUTIFUL!"
"That was the most
beautiful story I have ever seen. I just lost my father-in-law, who
was the sweetest man on earth. My mom died 3 weeks later. Also, a very
precious lady. I still have my mom-in-law and aunt who are becoming
more difficult With each passing day. Thank you for reminding me that
I could easily lose them soon as well. They are very, very precious
too! Thanks. Jaci Fleenor"
"Many who would like
to forward this to their children are not part of a unified 'Mom
and Dad' as the slideshow ends. I think, 'We Love You, Child'
would’ve been a great ending. The 'Mom and Dad' part makes it
hard for me to forward this to my children. Thanks. Luzette"
"As I sit here with
tears flowing down I can only say THANK YOU for voicing some feelings
and emotions that I have had ever since my elegant Mother guided my
family through her 'exit' almost two years ago. Through her
incredible strength and insight she brought the true meaning of life
and death and the beauty in both full circle for all of us. Through
the cruel twists of fate and age she lost the ability to be on her
own, in her own apartment. She was no longer living her life, on her
terms, and it was devastating to her, but she orchestrated her
'exit' and laid down a path for us all to follow in order to
understand and cope. When she deemed it time, again on her terms, she
went 'deep inside' herself, closed her eyes and refused to
speak, not even to me. Although we did not 'accept' the
circumstances, step by step she silently led us all on the path to
coping with the fact that she was tired, not living a life of her
choice, and was ready to reunite with Dad. As I sat alone with Mom at
the funeral home, of course the tears were never ending …. but they
were as much for the admiration and respect for her dignity and
strength as they were for having lost a friend and Mother. As time has
passed, the lessons and legacy she left us with become more evident
and this presentation put it to words. Thank you again. Susan"
"Very moving and
touching. Brought out a couple of tears I never knew I had. Mr
M.B.Nataraj, BSc, MS (Georgetown University, Wash DC, MT (American
Medical Technologists) USA"
January 4,
2007
"A big Thank You to
whoever put this together! My parents are both gone now and have been
for several years, but I miss them and need them every day more than
when I was young. I think so often how I would give anything just to
sit quietly and talk to them for 5 minutes one more time, I will some
day I know, but to those of you who still have the blessing of having
a parent still living, don't let a day go by without being sure they
know you love them and appreciate what they did for you when you were
little by doing all you can for them now when they may need your help.
Honor them and count it a blessing to be able to do for them now.
Emma, Georgia"
"This beautiful piece
was sent to me by a special friend. I in turn am sending it to my
three adult kids. THANK YOU! Marla"
"That's very touching
for a 78 year old - THANX YOU"
"This video is
awesome and such a blessing! The elderly have paid their dues to
society and deserve to be treated with the utmost respect always. They
are so precious and just want love, understanding, and the autonomy to
live their lives the way they choose without ridicule and judgment.
The voice of Josh Groban and the video touch the heart in such a
unique way. This video should be played as a commercial in every
household nationwide. Joan Young, MS"
January 3,
2007
"This email really
touched me because I lost my parents as a child. I only wish that I
could have the opportunity to serve my mom and dad so honorably in
their aging years. To all of you who had negative comments, shame on
you!! Work on acquiring a genuine love walk and a heart full of love,
then respond."
"As we ourselves grow
older, sometimes, we forget the huge message and sacrifice that our
parents made for us. I sent this to all of our children. We have
always taught them to love and respect their elders and to be gentle
to their grandparents. We feel that this will payoff in the long run.
We loved the music by Josh Groban, he has an angelic voice and the
song was inspiring. With grateful hearts and tears in our eyes, thank
you for the beautiful slideshow. J and G Goodroad-South Dakota"
"All I can say is 'WOW'
because this really hits home. In the last few years my 86 year old
mother has gone from living independently in her home to becoming very
dependent on others living in assisted living because she can no
longer care for herself and it really frustrates me that some of my
own family can’t understand why she is having such a hard time
adjusting. Unless you work in that capacity, there is nothing that
prepares you for caring for an elderly loved one. Thank you for
opening my eyes and hopefully others who see this site will 'get
it'. Tim K."
"It is so beautiful.
It is especially meaningful to me presently because we lost my mom
just one week before Mother's Day this past May. I know my mom is up
there smelling the beautiful flowers in God's Garden and being with
our loved ones there and when she was a young girl, she was a little
bit of a daredevil and would jump out of hay lofts, so I know if there
are any hay lofts, she has found them is jumping out of them.
Thanks for these beautiful and comforting thoughts. I am forwarding it
to my sister and our girls to help ease their pain as well. Sincerely,
Doris Erskine"
"A friend of mine
sent me this beautiful slideshow three weeks ago. I was so inspired by
it that when my mother who is 96 years old fell Christmas eve of this
year and could not live by herself any longer, my husband and I bought
her in to live with us. We are blessed every single day by having her
here. I want to thank you for putting this slideshow together. I look
at it every day and it gives me strength. We are all going to travel
this road someday. Thank you, Kathleen Romero"
January 2,
2007
""I’m a 48-year old
single mom with a high school senior and a 5th grader (both boys). My
85-year old dad came out for Christmas, which added another element of
'needing my time'. This is the first time ever that my dad
seemed old and frail. He doesn’t walk well any more and is very weak.
It was so hard to see him starting to go down hill. This video made me
cry profusely and reminded me of how much my parents did for me. We
lost mom 10 years ago and I still miss her. This makes me treasure the
limited moments I still have with my dad. Thank-you so much for taking
the time to put this together. Josh’s music is beautiful. Thank-you SO
much! Ann J"
"I am the ADOC at a
personal care home in Winnipeg. I think it would be something worth
showing all new staff and older staff in orientation and in services.
It certainly touches the heart, and being in this field."
"Thank you every so
much for this piece - it's truly inspiring and a great teaching tool
for all of us. I'm the fast becoming 'elder' who would like to send
this to my son and wife some day before too long, but not just yet;
however, to know it is available brings me great peace as it says so
perfectly what I need to say but haven't had just the right words.
This piece did remind me of just how valuable we as parents really are
and much 'worth' we really have! WOW! Just remembering all that I have
done in the past and still love doing for my child, and now I feel the
right words have been provided for me to use when it becomes 'time'.
Plus the blessings of the 'grands' - that is why God let's us get old
- so we can become GRANDparents, of course! God Bless You! .....and
you could never pick anyone more appropriate than Josh for the music -
he's so great! Mama in Florida"
January 1,
2007
"That has to be the
most wonderful and beautiful message I have ever seen. Every time that
I watch it, I cry…. I wish that many people could have the opportunity
to see it. Thank-you!"
"I am a caregiver and
I have seen a lot of things. This made me cry, it made me sad, it made
me think. Parent's Wish touched my heart and sends a message to
everyone. Thank you, Kathy Price"
"I was certainly
moved by the beautiful music and what the words expressed. My husband
and I, in our 70's, aren't quite ready to tell our children this, but
I am keeping it in my Favorite Places. Thank you for such a lovely
piece. Barbara"
"This says it all. It
is one of the most beautiful works I have ever seen. Thank you so
much. I am 77 years old and my children seem to be always doing one of
the things mentioned. I e-mailed this to them."
"I don't have words
to express thanks for creating this wonderful slide. I belong to some
country and right now I am in other country for studying purpose. I
was planning not to go back to my country and to stay here permanently
but by seeing this slide all my views changed. Now I will go back to
my country and will serve my mom and dad until their last breath. I am
expressing my views with continuous tears falling from my eyes. I
don't have words to express thanks to the people who gave their
efforts to make this wonderful slide!!!"
December 31, 2006
"It is beautiful and
I know friends I would like to give it to. Thank you."
"My parents sent this
to me and I found it completely insulting. I also found it a cheap
Hallmark-style manipulation. I have taken care of my parents,
emotionally and intellectually for years. When they need physical
help, I'll be there. This slide show did nothing but anger and disgust
me."
"Thank you so much for
this beautiful presentation. But for me, it was difficult to watch and
listen. It brought sadness, pain, and tears to my eyes while watching
it. You see, one of my sons totally rejected me, and now for over five
years I have been denied the privilege of seeing my oldest
granddaughter and my only grandson. Michael Zlotnicki"
December 30, 2006
"This is a beautiful
song - one of my favourites. With Josh's voice, the words, captions
and photos, I relived my own parents frail ends of their lives, seeing
the hands and quiet requests to leave this world as we know it for
something they knew was better. I'm sure my children will hear their
grandparent's voices in this and one day, their own parents, but in
the meantime, it gives us powerful messages by which to mold our own
lives. I have just now slowed my tears. Most touching and I will also
carry these images into my social work practice when working with
families and the elderly. Thank you. EM."
"That was beautifully
done. I cried through the film because I am getting ready to go and
see my 90 year old mom, who will be 91 new years old. She's in the
hospital, I cry every day, seeing my mommie laying there helpless.
I've lost 89 pounds worrying about my mom. Ruth l. Wilson. Desert Hot
Springs CA"
December 29, 2006
"I work in a long term
care facility for the elderly and this really touched my heart. Eva
White"
December 28, 2006
"We have just
received this from a friend in California. As both a daughter and a
mother, I agree completely with the sentiments - it's a message that
needs to be said and received, though as a Brit I find the
presentation sugary and shmaltzy (sp?) - a typical American style. But
thank you anyway. My 86 year old mother in law has recently moved 200
miles to be near us, which is lovely, and hopefully my dad will tear
himself from London to move up here as well, as he's virtually
housebound anyway. The older generation deserve to be looked after, I
believe it's their children's duty to do so, with support from the
state as required, and I am happy to do my duty. Yes, it can be a
burden, but one I accept gladly. With thanks, Jenny Fox Lincoln UK"
December 27, 2006
"I am a mobility
consultant for The Rascal Company and am in the homes of older
Americans everyday. Some kids get it but far too many don't and are in
deep need of this email. The people I talk to are truly a national
treasure because of their experiences and knowledge that they want to
be able to share. Take the time to listen and open your heart to these
older people in your lives. Don't be afraid to be patient and lend a
helping hand when need be. You may not have time for them but I would
argue you need to slow down and make the time for them and you will
find that they not only love sharing stories with you but you gain so
much more. In the new year to come make a real valuable resolution to
spend time with your loved ones. Tom"
"It makes me reflect
how I treat my parents so far and what should I improve further to
make them happier when they are still around, still recognize me,
still understand what I'm doing! Best regards, Jane"
"Thank you so very,
very much for putting this slideshow together. It touched my heart!
Tears welled up in my eyes and spilled over and ran down my cheeks as
I read it. It is so easy for grown children not to understand how hard
it is to grow old, and what the needs are of the elderly. I only hope
this is emailed around the world and back. I am emailing this to both
my children as my only fear of growing old is that they would not
understand that someday I will not be the sharp, witty, competent,
clear thinking person I am today --- and I often wonder if they will
understand and show compassion towards me -- and it reminded me to be
careful and considerate to ALL elderly persons I meet, not just my own
parents. P.S I know a few hospitals that should read this, too. Linda
H."
December 26, 2006
"Absolutely
outstanding. This site needs to be shared and viewed not only by
children of older parents, but caretakers of the elderly. Thank you.
Don L."
"WOW!!! I want to
thank whoever put this together. My dad wears me down, taking care of
him. He's 83 and still pretty independent. But he gets me so
frustrated at times. He lives with my husband and me so we have a lot
of daily interaction. And that's why I want to thank you so much for
the video. To remind me to be patient, to remain optimistic and mostly
to remember that my dad stills love me I know he does -- it's just
that being with him day after day gets 'old' after awhile. But
this video reminds me that as long as I have my dad, I should be
grateful. For all the things he has done in the past for me. And for
how much he loves me now. Sometimes I just forget. Thanks, deeply."
"I am the caretaker
for my 88-year-old mother with Alzheimer's, and my dear cousin is
caretaker for her 96-year-old mother. Here is what my cousin had to
say: "It was all good but saying don't get angry or sad is
contradictory to the essence of the whole thing, acceptance. Our
children were progressing and our parents are degenerating. To
experience anger and sadness is a normal thing for you and me as
caretakers, but we still accept our parents and support them in this
debilitated state for who they are and because God tells us to do it.
It is a matter of volition. 'I love Josh and have one of his CDs on
at this moment.'"
"I really love this
slideshow. It is so thoughtful and beautiful and hits home.
Unfortunately I think we are all guilty of being negligent in one way
or another. It is good to show the much younger of the generations who
are so busy with other things in their life. But, like us all. I like
that it will introduce a new thought of life to them."
"I just took in my 86
year old aunt that has Alzheimer's and dementia. It is a 24 hour a day
job, but I would never give up this time for anything! It's hard at
times to try and carry on a conversation with her, but when she laughs
or just says thank you for giving her a glass of water, my
heart melts. I walk her, bathe her, dress her, take her to the toilet,
and put her to bed. (She does feed herself) She misses my uncle
terribly, and after 13 years still talks about him every day. This
slideshow makes the rough days easier. Everyone that comes to my house
and says "You really have your hands full with her" will have
this sent to them... Thank you for a beautiful poem. Vicki Younkin"
December 25, 2006
"Dear Dad, Thank you
for sending me this touching heartfelt reminder. I love both you and
mom so much. I hope that now that I have my own children you know that
I can relate to the immense joy and heartache that comes with
parenting. Always know as you have been with me, I will be with you.
You have been my rock so many times. I could not have made it through
the past 3 years without you and mom. I have been so blessed with a
wonderful husband and 3 beautiful children. However, I believe had you
not been the example you were, Russ may not be in my life today. Thank
you for showing me how I DESERVED to be treated. Parents' Wish, thank
you for sharing the beautiful pictures and sentiments with Josh
Groban's music. We all need wake up calls from time to time to remind
us how lucky we are. It is so nice when people use the internet in a
positive way. Lisa Young"
December 24, 2006
"I don't know who put
it together, but I just sent it out to almost everyone as My Favorite
Email of 2006. Our three boys will get it on New Years Day. I was so
enamored that I listened to it eight times, trying to take down the
words in shorthand (yes, I'm old). All this before I noticed the Pause
button. I typed it up and will someday send it to our boys again. I
have almost no regrets about my parents who are both gone - well not
gone, because they are daily remembered. We moved 8 hours away from
them at one point, and soon helped contract a house for them a 1/2
block away from ours. They helped us raise our three boys. They knew
they were loved. God is good. I know where they are. I commend you on
a beautiful piece of poetry or prose, or whatever. It's so moving
because it's so close and so real. Janice Seals"
"Thank you so very
much for this beautiful message and reminder to be there for our
parents has they have always been there for us. I dedicate this to my
parents whom I love dearly and will always treasure my time with.
Thank you for molding me into the person that I am today and with any
luck a reflection of you both. With much love and respect. Sylvia
Lawson"
"I cannot tell you
the feelings that I felt when I saw this wonderful video. It was truly
amazing. I work with the elderly, with older parents like yours and
mine and it just opened my eyes to a deeper understanding of them.
Thank you for putting together something so special."
"When I received this
from a family member, her e-mail said. 'This is truly beautiful.
You will need kleenex to watch it.' I had no idea how correct she
was. I have rarely seen work as poignant as a Parent's Wish. It
encompasses everything we as parents, feel in our hearts but
sometimes, are unable to convey to our children in a meaningful and
positive way. This is a video to be viewed by all parents and their
children. I know we will certainly be sharing this one with ours.
Thank you for sharing! E.B."
December 23, 2006
"I cried out loud. It
brought back so many memories of my mother who died of Alzheimer's. It
made me wonder how many of these things I did unknowingly in the years
before she died. A great piece for Person Centered Care in our nursing
homes today. Thank you for allowing me to see it."
"A friend sent me
this today and I wanted to let you know how necessary I think this is
for grown children to see. My son-in-law is going through a rough time
with his parents right now and I forwarded it to him in hopes that it
will help him. My father died at 92 and I was able to spend some time
with him and take care of him. It was difficult at times, but I
wouldn't trade that time with him for anything. When we do these
things for our parents, we are truly blessed. Thank you so much for
this tribute!! and the song was perfect!!. Janet Smith, Commonwealth
of Virginia"
"Your video is
outstanding!!"
"Awesome! This is by
far the best I've ever seen. It brought tears to my eyes. The entire
slide show was beautiful and very touching from beginning to end. I
cannot express to you how much it meant to me. I passed it on to my
children and to friends and family. Thank you. Deborah"
"I just wanted to
thank you for such a beautiful tribute. I had never heard about
ParentsWish.Com until today. My stepfather sent it to me. Coming from
him, it has a particularly powerful message. You see, he is dying of
cancer and he and my mother are having a very difficult time. Thank
you for what you have given all of us. Sincerely, Bonnie Holland
Williams, CA USA"
"Hello, I just
watched the Parent's Wish and was very touched by it, I have a
grandfather, that is 94, and now in a home. And all of it is what I'm
going through with my dad, uncle ad aunt, with their father, them not
really understanding, what my grandfather is going through. He is a
great man, in all of our eye's."
"What a wonderful
reminder of the respect we should pay our aging relatives, and all
aging people. If we slow down and make those moments worthwhile for
them, our gift will be a little break from the hectic lives we build
for ourselves. And in return, when we are aging, God will bless us
with those who will take the time to pay attention to us. Thank you
for the time you took to make this wonderful message. -SunShine"
December 22, 2006
"THANK YOU!"
"Tears just refused
to stop. I miss my mom. She is with my sister and her newborn girl in
Melbourne. I haven't seen her for 3 months due to heavy workload. Now
that I seen the slideshow, I realized I have been too busy to visit
her and that is my bad. Thank you so much. God is great - HE sent this
slideshow as a reminder to us. Thank you x 100 gazillion"
"It was the most
beautiful presentation and the most touching tribute I ever seen
dedicated for every parents. I just realized that being old means
'start of survival period' cause you cannot do all the thing you
normally do when you're young. This makes me realized the importance
of my parents."
"THANK_YOU....."
December 21, 2006
"What a wonderful
thing you have put on the web. I hope everyone will send this to their
kids. They need to understand."
"I would like to
thank my friend Cookie, for sending this to me. It is very very true,
the words are profound, touching a vital nerve, to say the least. If
all children would see us (the Parent, or the God Parent) in this way,
what a wonderful world this would and could be. Many thanks again,
Carol Z. Wilson: Key Largo, FL."
"I have written
regarding this page and its message. It has weighted heavy on my heart
since I have listened more then once. So I posted it on both my blogs,
a newpaper I have and even a petition on the web and sent it to
everyone I know, including all 100 Senators and VP. I think if this
message really strikes folks the way it should, this Country of Ours
will change. I am 62 and have Alzheimers, maybe some of your readers
will visit me:
http://living-with-alzhiemers.blogspot.com/
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-7yVoyXs7dLV6bGvI9qFQUgS4oJvA
http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/jopoto111744
http://www.younewz.com/article/health-news-20
God Bless you for this and keep it posted as long as you can. Joseph
Potocny"
"Having just put our
mother in a nursing home, this message seemed it was written directly
to me. I enjoyed it immensely even through my tears. Barbara Kemp"
"I'm in my 60's and
lost my father when I was young. He was my hole life and when he left,
I was lost until older people came to my rescue. From that time on, I
have loved older people and we learn so much from them and yet we
forget how much they did for us growing up. What you have done with
Parents wish, I congratulate you on your achievement. Keep you the
good work and I do hope you get the copy rights to this."
"THANK YOU SOOOOO
MUCH. wow this really explains a lot. I wish I had it when my parents
were alive. But I did take very good care of them when they were
alive. I'm sending this to my children and grandchildren so they can
understand us better. Once again THANKS and may God bless you as you
serve him, merry ,merry Christmas, J. Lazier"
December 20, 2006
"My Mother is 82
years old and until June 2006, had never taken a pill or been in the
hospital except to give birth. Since June 2006 she's been diagnosed
with Alzheimer's Disease, undergone emergency surgery for a 15 cm
malignant tumour and developed a heart condition. This part of her
journey is the long goodbye and I am so very grateful to be a part of
it. She will spend the remainder of her days in my home and end her
life on earth here surrounded by family who love her. Your slideshow
brought me to tears (in a touching and very good way)."
"I have passed this
site on to many of my friends. It is so inspiring, and I cry my eyes
out each time I visit here. Thank you so much for sharing this with
us, Skychef"
"Blessings for all
who read this moving tribute to the truth~ the Parents' Wish~ Crying ~
wishing I had this many many years ago ~ my parents are long gone ~as
I think back I surely wish I had this advise! This will help many
other folks in the journey of love and life. Sending my kind and
respectful thank you. May the lord bless you and yours."
"I received this
e-mail I'm sure by mistake because of my e-mail address, but I'm glad
I did. It is the most beautiful e-mail I've ever gotten from anyone.
It's a message that I've wanted to send my own children for some time
now, but could never find the right words. Now all I have to do is
send this message. Thanks so much. From CenetrLine, Michigan"
"Your slides'
pictures and song touched my so very deeply and caused tears to flow
from my eyes. Parents' Wish is truly a loving tribute to a father or
mother. Thanks so very much!!!!! LK Evans"
December 19, 2006
"My mom has
Alzheimer's. I am looking to get the words only to this Poem as I have
not always been the best with her. And I wanted to be able to print it
out and give it to her for Christmas. Please help. Thanks Brian"
"This really made me
cry as I'm a one year mother now. I can't help but wonder if my child
would do to me those things I haven't done to my mom. It made me cry
because I feel guilty for all those times I feel I neglected her and
never made her dream for me come true. I even joke about my husband
before, whenever he wants to go home to their province. That he only
misses his mom because he's a mama's boy. He told me then, 'I hope
our son won't do it to you when he's big enough, that he will leave
you and never thought of going back anymore to see you.' That
marked my mind. Just want my mom to know that I admire her so much. I
know that being a mom now with all the things I'm doing to my son will
never be equal to what my mom has done to us. That serves as an
inspiration to me right now. I can never promise anything, but I'll do
my best to make you happy and celebrate each day as I am a mother now,
and I can share all the things that you thought me to my son. I love
you so much Ma."
"My parents are at
this stage in life, but I am not far behind. This beautiful tribute to
loved ones is totally awesome and I will be the cane for my parents.
Thank you for opening my eyes so very much."
"The Parents' Wish
expresses what we are feeling. The Single Mother version could be more
meaningful with female pictures and the music is distorted."
"This is a
sentimental piece of drivel. Ungrateful children will end up throwing
you into a nursing home and never visit."
December 18, 2006
"Thank you so much
for the Parents' Wish. I recently lost my father and now my husband
and I am dealing with my mother-in-law and it really makes one think
of one's own immortality. I was deeply touched. Thank you!"
"Of all of the e-mail
I have received this one is the most real and most felt I have every
had. This was written by someone who not only has been there with a
loved one but is also on the way to being there themselves. And one
who has children that, as I at one time, don’t get it yet. God bless
those of us who are there, getting there, and will get there. We all
just need love and understanding. Thank you!"
"I am still in tears,
this is wonderful. BBL"
"Well done! My Mom
has lived with me for the past six years. There is one big difference
that I would like to point out and you may have already thought of
this. In the slideshow it states many times what the parent did for
the child. The difference in what the parent did for the child and
what the child can do for the parent is this. The parent has much joy
and patience with the child with a positive outlook for many years to
come. On the other hand the child is dealing with aging and health
concerns and maybe a more doom outlook because you know this is the
end. It is hard to watch her loose more of herself day by day. My
brother and I had suspected that she would have passed ten years ago.
I thank God and am grateful that she is still here and pray for her
health and wellbeing every night. Bless You All, Jan"
"My mother's passing
at age 99 was exactly as she had said she hoped it would be- out
of pain at night while sleeping in her own bed. My father died
at age 80 in a Nursing Home after my mother was no longer able to care
for him. My mother never missed visiting him even once. After his
passing she asked me to see that she was never put in a care facility
but allowed to live and die in her own home. I promised her I would
honor her wish. Your slide show was very familiar to me since Mom and
I had talked about these issues before she became ill. I encourage
everyone, parents and children, to talk together about the ageing
experience and the many issues and expectations that accompany it
before anyone is too old or in need of care. These kinds of talks
bring parents and children closer and aide enormously when the actual
time has arrived. And keep talking about what's happening to you and
your parents during the process itself. This will also keep you closer
to each other in both love and understanding. Again, thank you for
this beautiful, honest, and needed presentation. Joan Simpson"
December 17, 2006
"I am ever grateful
for this and it is so true. Thank you Beverly"
"Your slideshow is
amazing! It truly hits home! I am the daughter of a mother with
Alzheimer's. I often view the slide show to remind me of the way my
mother should be treated and how I was treated growing up."
"This was the most
amazing tribute to the Circle of Life - I read it yesterday on my
birthday. As I took a break from the tradition my parents started
soooo many years ago of putting up the Christmas tree on my special
day, mom and dad were front and center in mind. Because they are no
longer physically here, I miss them so much. It was all your thoughts
that kept me going while caring for them in their 'golden years'.
As I hung the two remaining ornaments from my childhood, my heart
smiled. thanks for adding the music of Josh Groban. What a tribute!!!"
"This is my all time
favorite song and now you have made it even more special!! I loved
it!! Thanks so much!!!"
"This was beautiful
and so true I sent it to all the people I knew would love it like I
did. BJH"
December 16, 2006
"This is the most
beautiful slide show I have ever seen."
"Thank you for one of
the most meaningful and beautiful videos I have seen. God Bless Maria
Bland"
December 15, 2006
"I
love the Parents' Wish. Wonder if you can do the same type thing from
a Grandpa and Grandma that raised a grandson most of his life. Thanks"
"Wow! What a
beautiful tribute for a Mom and Dad. This is how they feel and think
and we do have to be reminded from time to time. I really cried, my
Mom lost her life to Alzheimer's this year and she was a saint on
earth and will be in heaven. Thank you and bless you."
"I just read many of
the deeply poignant comments from your readers that were sent over the
past year...there was nothing anyone said in that area that I could
add to. So I just wanted to let you know that I have saved this within
my emails since March 28, 2006 because there were some
computer/copyright problems and you were working on them. I checked
back periodically and I still could not open it again, so in time you
forget (see? a sign of old age! ha!). This morning while cleaning up
old emails, I tried clicking on the link and it opened... and once
again the flood of emotion and truth to your presentation touched me
deeply. I hope in time you are successful in getting copyright
permission (as I see from the 'NEWS' section, you are working on). It
would be wonderful to have this available on a CD/DVD (even into a
little book... although we'd miss hearing Josh Groban music). It truly
deserves to be shared with all families, even those not on computers.
My husband and I (who are in our 60's), thank you for a profound
presentation."
"Wow!!! I just
reestablished my relationship with a friend's aunt who is 87. Even
though she is forgetful there is a little spark or twinkle coming
through. This glimmer of hope grows with kind and thoughtful actions
of others. When I reach out to help another person the rewards are too
numerous to mention. We all need to keep this in mind since we may,
someday, be 'one of them'. Your presentation has touched the
hearts of so many individuals; some of which have or have had issues
with an older person and can now make amends. I certainly am. Thanks
so much for making a huge difference in the universe!!!"
December 14, 2006
"No words can
describe this message."
"This is so beautiful
and touching. I just lost my Mother 11 months ago and though we spent
the last few years together (with the Hospice angels) I am so thankful
for that time and miss her so. Thank you for putting these feelings
into words. Sue Cunningham"
"I loved listening
and reading the messages."
December 13, 2006
"My mother - in-law
forwarded me your page as I was in the process of caring/losing my
mother. It brought me great comfort and insight as to face the future.
Thanks!"
"Wow. My sister in
law sent this to me... once I dry my eyes, and finish this email, I am
sending it on. It is beautiful. What a tribute. The Lord Jesus tells
us to honor our Father and Mother, and this certainly fits that. I
know my mom is going to cry with this one, as my stepdad has some
tough days sometimes. Thank you for your efforts getting this out. I
pray that it will help others to see how important our elders are to
us, and to each younger generation. My 12 year old daughter watched it
too, and plans to send it to her friends as well. God Bless you."
"I suffer from
Alzheimer's and I have to tell you this more then touched my heart. I
listened over an hour ago and still my nose won't stop. Everyone in my
address book got this link and I hope they listen to it. God Bless
Joe"
"This is a beautiful
clip. It says so much. My mother has Alzheimer's and this says so
much. Please keep it and pass it around. I have 24 hour care for her
and have 8 care givers. I am passing this along to them, as I received
it from one of them. Thank you for sharing this with everyone. Susan
Roach, Ogdensburg, New York"
"Beautiful!"
December 12, 2006
"This is just great,
the sayings and the music. However, I wish you had one like that
signed just Mom."
[Webmaster's note.
Please click on PLAY MOVIE above. There is a version you can play for
a single mom.]
"I just wanted to
tell you that this is the most powerful, touching video I have ever
seen. My mother recently had a stroke and a friend sent it to me. This
hits home as she had Alzheimer’s and lived in a nursing home. Is it
possible to send this to the Ontario Family Council, the Alzheimer’s
Association or any organization that deals with the Elderly."
"I recently had the
opportunity to view the Parent’s Wish and found it to be very thought
provoking and an excellent tool for the training I do in our long term
care facilities. I read that you are in the process of being able to
produce a CD to be used for multiple purposes. I, like many others, am
very excited about this opportunity. Thank you for your time and the
wonderful idea and product you are putting together."
"This was so
beautiful and moving. I got totally choked up listening and reading
it. My parents sent this to me, I think because I'm traveling down
North to South to help them for the 2nd time in a month. I think they
feel slightly guilty though I wish they never would. Knowing them, I
feel its their way of totally unnecessarily apologizing for 'putting
me out' asking me to do this. The song and words though exemplify
the way they raised me to think and act. I believe and try to act upon
that belief. This amazing combination of lyrics and writing spoke of
everything we value."
"I received your link
to the document Parents' Wish via e mail and was very impressed with
your presentation. Thank you for your time and creativity."
"After watching this
I realized that if I could I would kick myself in the rear. My Mother
just passed away and we all had one or all of the issues in this
presentation. I sent this to my sons, I hope they learn more quickly
than I. Thank you for waking us up. All though it is too late for me,
it may not be to late for others."
December 11, 2006
"A beautiful message
and a special website. Thank you."
"You have indeed
given life after death, God Bless You All!"
"This is one of the
most touching slideshows I've ever seen. I am 31 yrs old and I believe
it was not until I left home at the age of 21 that I realized how
precious my mother is to me. As the years continue to pass, I am
enlightened by the awakening lessons and blessings she instilled in me
as a child. I'm grateful for my mother. And I believe that we should
all cherish our elders; they definitely have a lot to offer. And not
only do they give to us without ceasing, but also with an
unconditional love that we can never know until we ourselves become
parents. I'm so glad you shared this slideshow. It reminded me one
more time to call and thank my mother for her love and sacrifice."
"I am a Registered
Nurse and I completely agree with and adore this piece. I often give
so much at work that I don't take the time to give to my parents as
much as I should. I spend all my time with them when they are in the
hospital as I don't want them to ever be alone. But, I need to spend
more time with them in their home. My point is that we need to spend
time with our elderly when they are healthy and ill. I beg all of you
to help the nurses and caregivers in the hospital. Please stay with
your parents or loved ones as much as you can. The nurses need your
help and knowledge and appreciate the families who stay and HELP
provide care. There is nothing worse than family members who WATCH the
caregivers feed and change their parents when they could be doing it
for their parents or loved ones and freeing the caregivers to help the
other patients who are without family. They changed your diapers, it
is time to change theirs. The nurses and caregivers would love to help
you of course if you need it. Thank you. Again, great piece. Karen,
Virginia, USA."
December 10, 2006
"I don’t know what to
say, it is so true, love you for doing this. God bless. John"
"This message really
hit home for my me and my husband. My Mother lived with us from age 83
to 94 and we understand every word written in this message. We feel we
tried to make our home hers. She was fairly independent until her last
2 years which required close to 24 hour care. Yes, there were days we
didn't know if we could make it, but we said we would never put her in
a nursing home and we feel blessed we were healthy enough in our early
70's to take care of her."
"Hello... I was very
impressed with your movie."
"I enjoyed your
slideshow so much I sent it to family members, friends after I
finished crying. I read it over and over. I love it and did I cry and
cry. It was so true to heart. I lost my dad in 2003. He had four
strokes. He was 85 years. I love him and miss him but I feel he is in
a better place. Thank you and everyone that help you. I send
your to everyone I know. God Bless You. Emma from Jamaica N.Y"
December 9, 2006
"Absolutely beautiful
and inspiring. I'm sure most of us don't think often enough of our
parents until they are gone. This piece reminds me of so many times I
could have, should have been there or called. My parents have been
gone 10 and 13 years now but I still find there are times I start to
pick up the phone because 'Mom would laugh at that or Dad would
love to hear about this.' Don't let those moments pass. God Bless
you for such a special effort to remind us all and our children, too,
how precious our parents are. Peg in Penna"
"I received this
e-mail from my grandpa. My mom and I cried through it. My grandpa is
having to deal with some health issues right now. But this show made
me really understand that kids don't take as much advantage of their
parents and grandparents as they should. This is why I say spend every
moment with the ones you love. Treasure the times you have because
someday life will take its turn. This way you will have the best
memories as you possibly can have. Your parents want to spend time
with you so do the same. They will always be in your hearts no matter
what happens."
"Is this available
for download again? Made me cry, but I would love for all my children
to have it. Thank you."
"Truly a beautiful
piece of work! I too cried. My passion is working with the elderly and
too often I see family who cannot 'deal' with Mom of Dad's
dementia and therefore don't visit with them. They are still in their
bodies. It just takes a little longer to see them. Many thanks to the
people or person who put together this loving reminder."
"My oldest brother
sent this to me and what an amazing piece of work! We lost our dad a
year ago and my mom followed 19 short weeks later. She had suffered
from Alzheimer's for many years but some days were good for her. My
father visited her every day in the nursing home, bringing her
something to snack on. They were married for almost 62 years as she
was a war bride. I cried from start to finish and then watched it
again. My mother never said a mean word her entire life. She read her
bible daily and prayed for her 4 children. Thank you so much for you
hard work and letting me have a good cry here at the holidays
understanding again their way of thinking as at the end neared. Mary
Ann Mc Afee Oregon, Mo."
"I enjoyed the
presentation very much. I have been working with Seniors for almost 34
years-so this had a very deep meaning to me. Thank you so much for
sharing. Sincerely, Marcia Turner"
December 8, 2006
"When I received this
file from a cousin I almost deleted it as I was certain it was just
another of those unwanted chain emails or some such thing. But, for
some reason I didn't. As I got further into the words and the ALWAYS
moving lyrics, I was moved and reminded that my so often 88 year-old
pain in the neck. Mother was a gift and that the next time I am ready
to lose it with her I know that I will remember this! Thank you on
behalf of myself and my Mom."
"What a beautiful
tribute to our elderly parents. I am taking care of my mother in our
home and hope I can tend to her until she passes from this life. She
now has macular degeneration of the eyes, and is legally blind. She
also has senile dementia and repeats over and over. I answer
like it is the first time. It is an honor to take care of her. She did
a wonderful job of taking care of four daughters. Linda Rutt. Thank
you, it brought a tears to my eyes."
"I thought this was a
beautiful video. It was a tear jerker. Thank you for putting something
so wonderful out there. I have lost my daughter and it made me think.
Wish the world was more like that, soft and gentle. Thank you again.
Shirley"
"That was the first
time I have cried in 15 years. It was the 'help us walk, like we
helped you' part that tied the knot so to speak. Rick 21. Canada"
"This truly....speaks
from the heart... I would love to have a written copy for many of my
friends that either can't view from their computer or do not have a
computer. I believe everyone should have a chance to if not hear, but
to read this.... what meaning of life you have captured.... Thank you.
Karla Putnam"
December 7, 2006
"Wonderful piece,
brought tears to my eyes.. My mom is 87.. touched my heart..
beautiful...."
"I didn't cry. I
sobbed!"
"God Bless the friend
that sent me this email. The tears really flowed. I lost both parents
within 3 months a few years ago and I will miss them forever. I just
sent the email to my children. The slide show and music speak volumes.
I wish everyone could see and experience the impact it has on each
person who has been blessed to watch it. Thank you for putting such a
wonderful piece together Mary from CT"
"What a terrific
piece. I work in a hospital and due to the politics, complaints and
demands of the job, sometimes it's difficult to be compassionate. It's
not that we lack compassion, it's just we're so overwhelmed and
exhausted by the work we have to carry out, it's hard to really see
the people we're caring for. Seeing this video helped to put things
into perspective again. Perhaps this inspirational video should be
shown in hospitals to help us remember that if we only have a moment
to spare, perhaps we can make a difference in someone's life.
Sometimes a passing smile is worth a thousand words.. Well done......
Valerie"
"That was the most
moving email I've ever received. I write this with tears streaming
down my face because it is so true and appropriate. I will be visiting
my parents this Christmas; they live over a thousand miles from me and
my family and are in their 80's. I do not get to see them as often as
I would like. Thank you so much for this inspirational message. I will
pass it to my children and hope they receive the same message I got
today. Thanks again......Linda"
"I would like to mail
this to two inmates that I write to. This reminds me a lot of my
mother who died a little time ago plus I feel that my inmates would
really enjoy this."
"This is the most
touching story I have ever read. I have never reacted this way. I
cried like a baby, (I guess that is not bad for a 70 year old to still
cry like a baby). Perhaps it has touched home as my children lost
their dad two years ago and I know that this will touch them as much,
and perhaps they in turn will send this off to their children. Thank
you so much for this beautiful story."
"My husband and I
have been the primary caretakers of my 96-year-old mother for many
years. Sometimes we feel as if we are on a short tether, always
having to stay close to home, never going anywhere overnight, but we
somehow have managed to have a life of our own. I enjoy going to
church with my mother, and our church 'family' loves having her
with them for all of the activities. We all enjoy taking long drives
and trying out all the restaurants and buffets within 50 miles of our
home. My brother and sister come and visit for a week at a time
several times a year, giving us a break. There are ways, in other
words, to care for an elderly parent and actually enjoy the
responsibility. You just have to work at it!"
December 6, 2006
"What a wonderful
touching piece. I could not stop crying. I was moved deeply.
Sincerely, Brigitte"
"Absolutely wonderful
- definitely brought tears to my eyes. Excellent, excellent,
excellent."
"Wow this was
wonderful."
"Wow, so beautiful
and touching! Wish all children could read this! I'm still wiping
tears from my eyes. I've heard so many elderly say they are ready to
go (die) and I couldn't understand it but now I can. Thank you for
this beautiful masterpiece!!"
"This slideshow was
so touching. I will send it to my children (even though it is signed
Mom and Dad) who were unable to understand how difficult it was for me
to take care of my dying husband. He had Parkinson's Disease, and like
Alzheimer's, the patient loses his quality of life, and wants to die.
As a Christian, I believe we go to a better place to be with Jesus and
to be with our dearly departed ones, so death is a blessing. Thank you
for this presentation. Vera"
"This is a very good
piece of work. It fits what is in my heart but have been unable to put
it to words."
December 5, 2006
"This is just
beautiful and a very good reminder for us as we have aging mothers and
can relate to this and also for ourselves in the future. Thank you."
"This was a lovely
movie/slide show and very inspiring. Our sons have enjoyed it and are
pleased we shared it with them. Thank you for your music and words of
the song, as well as the wonderful slides. They are very much
appreciated."
"I cried like a baby.
I lost my parents 10+ years ago and still miss them and always will.
This is profound!"
"Two weeks ago I
turned 79. Time is running out - at least is getting low - so I cried
when I read and listened. So true - so true. Wish I could redo what I
likely did not do right - with my parents. Am told I was good - but I
know deep inside not PERFECT. Its all very final - no options for
corrective measures - THANKS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Peter Sr."
December 4, 2006
"This video was very
touching and not only a look at today, but thought's about tomorrow.
Thank you for sharing. Jessie."
"Thank you so much
for this beautiful tribute to parents. My sister sent it to me and I
am writing to you through tears. It really got to me because it was
like you were telling my life story. My dad, who had emphysema and
prostate cancer and was confined to a wheelchair for the past 2-1/2
years, passed away in July at age 84. My mom, who is still alive at
age 87, has Alzheimer's and Parkinson's and is also confined to a
wheelchair. They both lived with me until it was impossible for me to
care for them anymore. The hardest thing I ever had to do was to put
them in a nursing home but everyone said it was for the best. It's
hard, but I try to go see her every day. This is one email I will keep
and watch over and over. Thanks and God bless all parents. Pat, Lodi,
NJ"
"Thank you so much
for creating Parents' Wish website. This should be mandatory viewing
for everyone, everywhere. You are doing a great service to the world.
In turn, I will 'Pay it forward'.
"This was the most
moving and timely email I have ever received. I sent it on to my
children hoping they will understand what their father and mother are
going thru right now. Thank you."
"Not only is this a
wonderful message to children of elderly parents, it should be
required viewing for all who work in nursing centers and facilities
for the aging to remind them that the folks in their care are special
people who likely once did for others what they are doing for them. If
this could be fully realized, they might even imagine that someday
someone will be caring for their parents. Caring for the elderly is a
hard task, done by people who get very little recognition or monetary
compensation. Something like this might help them realize what a
special opportunity they have for the ultimate good gift."
"O.K. I'm getting off
the damn internet right now (where I spend HOURS each day) and will
drive the (only) 15 minutes to my dear Mother's nursing home to see
her (where I spend only MINUTES each month). I am ashamed of myself.
Even though she has had something similar to Alzheimer's for several
years, she still has some lucid moments and will smile at me as I talk
to her. She was a wonderful Mother to us even when we were little and
couldn't do anything for ourselves, and she certainly deserves the
same love and care in return right now!"
"This was the most
beautiful thing I have seen on an email. I cried so much. I watched it
four times already and cried each time. It is something I want to
save. I now have a better perspective of what my mother is going
through at her age. It really made me think and not to be so
judgmental of her. Thank you so much for this slide show."
"Thanks for the:
Thinking of sustenance; Making this communication – Natural Law needed
for Sustenance of Society; Sharing this with me. We understand best;
when we have both the grown up parents and growing children. No
machinery/technology is substitute to LOVE/CARE/AFFECTION/EMOTIONS
with QUALITY TIME. Ashok Kumar. Mumbai, India"
December 3, 2006
"Just viewed your
slideshow and wanted to let you and others know how absolutely TRUE
these 'wishes' are even though many of them remain unspoken by
those we care for on a daily basis. It is a gentle reminder to those
of us who are caregivers of those elderly relatives to continue to
treat them with the same dignity and respect we ourselves would like
to receive in any situation. Thank you for the reminder and for
communicating the 'wishes' of so many! Bless you! C.L. -Chicago"
"This was so
beautiful it made me cry, I sent it along to my children. Thank you so
much, and may God Bless you. The Goynes. From St Joseph, Illinois"
"This was an awesome
site. I am sending it to my daughter. I lost my husband, mother-in-law
within a matter of months 2 years ago. I wish I had known of this site
then. I will pass it on to my friends and family members. Thank you
again, it really touched home for me."
December 2, 2006
"This was Great and
so true--I am an 84 year old mother and would like to send this by
e-mail to my children."
"A friend of mine
sent me this because we both have parents in our 80's. My mother has
Parkinson's tremors in her hand. She also has Osteo Arthritis and is
bed ridden and needs caregivers. My father has the burden of taking
care of her at night. It hurts all of us to see her this way and it
hurts us more to see our father having to take care of her. After
seeing and reading your parent's wish it helped me realize how my
mother is really feeling. Many times she has said she just wants to
die. I would get so angry at her when she would say that. Now I
understand when she says she doesn't want to take a shower. I guess
they just give up when they cannot do what they want to do anymore.
She has been a burden to all of us but looking at this Parent's Wish
made me realize that it is a burden we all need to bear for as long as
we are able. This brought tears to my eyes. I am sure that raising 5
kids was a burden to her at times too. I lost a brother in 1980 and
that was very hard for her and my father and all of us. I often wonder
how he would feel and what he would do if he were alive to see her
like this. CL"
"Thank you for this
inspiring piece. Sitting here with retirement in mind I wonder how my
children will view this message. Now I won’t wait, they will get it as
soon as I can send it. Know what they think can be seen in the actions
they will put forth not for me alone but for themselves."
"This is excellent
and I would love to see more of your Power Shows. I would love to see
the Tribute To Dad.. and others. I lost my Mom in Aug of 2003 and it
is still very hard for me to be without her. We were very close and I
don't think any one ever had as good a Mom as I did. She lived with me
the last 9 years of her life and I took care of her when she became so
ill so this is sad to me but also is so beautiful.. Thank You"
December 1, 2006
"What
a touching, universal appeal. Thank you very much. Vinita Khanna"
"This is such an
awesome message."
"Really enjoyed the
video, Parents' Wish. It struck home and will show it to my kids. More
should see this! Beverly Galpin"
"I am so impressed
with your slideshow. It is awesome, very touching, and so well
presented. Thank you for such a beautiful piece. I, too, have sent it
to my children. My daughter cried, said it is hard for her to think of
me getting that old. Truly beautiful piece."
November 30,
2006
"I live in Canada,
and work with mostly Alzheimer patients in a long term care facility.
This slideshow is absolutely amazing...and could be a great 'reminder'
or lesson for all those who work with seniors, as well as for the
families."
"My mom has been
sending me some of your items. My dad has the Parkinson's and is in
some of his last stages. It's very hard to see this once very loving
strong man go down hill as he is, but he's still my father who I love
with all my heart. Thank you."
"Thank you for your
heartwarming website and production. My husband is 74 and I am 67 - we
are both recently retired and so far enjoy reasonably good health. I
am forwarding this on to our surviving daughter who loves to parent us
even when we don't need it - it is her way of telling us how much she
loves us since we lost our son and daughter 7 years ago. I am also
sending this on to our grandchildren and friends who have or will be
encountering what your message relays to us all. I too, like
others, experienced tears as I began to watch this wonderful and well
presented production. Many memories overwhelmed me, too many to
describe. Our parents loved us as we loved them and this is a loving
tribute to their memories, especially during this holiday season. I
pray that all who see this will draw upon long lost memories and
remember to love their parents as they are and be grateful for all
that they bestowed upon them. Thank you and God bless you. Joan in
Houston, TX."
"I am an old woman
also. Your slideshow is touching, fantastic, truthful, beautiful and
soul reaching. God Bless You. Vernette E. Godfrey"
November 29,
2006
"I just want to say 'thank
you' whoever you are that composed such a heart warming message. I
had tears viewing it and my eyes are still filled with tears. I have
passed this onto one of my daughters as a heads up of the reality that
is coming our way with myself and my husband. Even though I lost both
of my parents five years apart, they were not that old when they died.
This beautiful message somehow reminded me of how I helped them
through their illness days, and the reality of life is that when we
are born we need help throughout our childhood years, and as we grow
old, we need help again. However, this time we need it from the
children whom we helped. Strange isn't it!!! Thank you again...CMA,
N.Y."
"Thank you so much
for this beautiful gift. I am a young woman who has been taking
care of my mother for 20 years now. She has suffered strokes and
has dementia. Every frame was pertinent to what I go, no what my
mother and I go through together everyday. Josh G.'s music was
absolutely perfect for this experience. Experiencing Parents' Wish
put me back in my heart and I don't think I've been in there for a
long time now when it comes to my mother. Thank you so much for
this priceless gift."
"Your Parents' Wish
slide show was amazing. That was the first email I have received that
has made me cry. My grandparents have health problems and are aging
fast. I'm sure this message hit very close to home with my mother and
aunts. They are having such a hard time with all this, hopefully it
will give them some relief. Thank you so much and God bless you. Kayla
, Phx AZ"
"This is a beautiful
message and one that will be good for staff to relate to."
"How I loved this
slide show. I sent it to all my co-workers and beside each desk as
they opened it I stood there and cried."
"Oh my God, what a
truly wonderful movie."
November 28,
2006
"I recently came
across your slideshow. Thank you for your efforts in putting together
this touching compilation of words and imagery."
"I love your video.
You are to be praised for it. God bless you for this."
"I have not received
a more extraordinary e-mail in all the years I have been on the web.
Thank you for your message. Thank you for reminding me of my
miraculous life - via my parents and then my message to my Son. V.
Olson"
"I just received this
from my uncle and had tears in my eyes by the end of it. Very heart
wrenching but very true."
"I am 71yrs old and I
cry every time I play this slideshow. It is so beautiful."
"Thank-you!!!! This
was absolutely beautiful. As a parent and a nurse this has really
touched me. I took care of both my parents before they passed and my
mother in-law. The words are heart felt and so true. Thank-you"
"I just lost my Mom
in August 2006, and tears streamed down my cheeks as I read and
listened to the music. This is certainly the most beautiful and
touching e-mail I have ever received."
November 27,
2006
"You have done a
wonderful service to many people young and old."
"That was
outstanding, I am also in the same boat as a lot of you wonderful
people. My older sister had sent this to me and it sheds a whole new
light on my life. I sat down to read this with my children and cried
and cried. I would like to thank all the people who had to do with
this. Thank you. Tami S. Vanderhoof, B.C"
"God bless all of you
who put this together. My Dad passed away 3 1/2 years ago after
spending the better part of his last 10 years with me. He did, and I
can relate, to every one of those slides. I laughed to myself. I
cried gentle happy tears as so many memories came back to me. I’m
thankful Dad had, and Mom is having full, happy lives. You’re good
people. Gary"
"This is the most
beautiful video I have seen in a long time. I am still wiping the
tears from my face. I lost my precious father in February of 1993 and
I am so glad I did all of the things mentioned in the video for him
out of respect and love! God bless you for sharing this wonderful
experience with me and the world!"
"This is the most
wonderful e-mail I've ever received. I am a mother of 4 good children
who are away from me due to my job assignment. The beautiful show,
combined with Josh Groban's music is very touching... it really made
me cry a lot but I always play it whenever I have an opportunity. I
also sent it to my children, friends and relatives and am very happy
to hear good feedbacks from them especially from my 4 children
thanking me and assuring how much they care about me and their dad.
God bless! - Happy Mom in Switzerland"
November 26,
2006
"Simply amazing. I
watched it 4 times and it reminded me of my mum and dad who I lost in
1994 and 2005 respectively. Perhaps whilst our parents are alive is a
good time to view this film to remind us to appreciate them more now
because when they are gone it is too late to give them all that love
that they so deserve for what they did for us as children. Thank you
for this - I sent it to all my children, friend and siblings.
Congratulations on this wonderfully inspiring presentation - I was
truly moved. Glenice Green"
"This e-mail was
beautiful and, sad but true. The music was so lovely and so fitting
for the slide show."
"What a beautiful
slideshow!"
"Through the vehicle
of the fast-image technological media, you have given a great gift to
your website viewers. You have so uniquely and skillfully displayed
the creativity and wonder that prompts us to slow down and see our
elderly parents, friends or neighbors world-- for the first time!
Thank you for sharing this gift of your God-given talents with those
viewers who have been invited to view your site. I am so glad that my
friend shared with me your website. From Tom's Lighthouse"
November 25,
2006
"That is the most
heart felt thing I have ever seen......thank you.... Amy Lee Camptell"
"I loved this
slideshow and it was the most amazing thing I've ever seen. It made me
cry so hard. I loved the music that went with it. My mom and I kind of
fight a lot and I get mad at my dad so easily, but now I realized that
they only want the best for me. Thank you so much for making that
little video."
"This was just a
great thing and there is so much truth to it. It really makes me look
different at things now toward the older people. Right after I read
this especially the one talking about if I repeat myself, my Mom
called me and did the same thing and I realize how she does this a lot
when she is talking to me on the telephone. I do get a little
frustrated but I now know that maybe all of the elders do this then. I
thought it was just my Mom. Trish Marsden, North Carolina"
"A true and heartfelt
thank you to you for this beautiful email that was passed on to me. My
Mum died 10 years ago, my elderly Dad is still with us and we (my
sisters and I) give thanks every day for what we had and what we have
got the... love from our wonderful parents. I worked in nursing homes
and also with the elderly in their own homes and seen all sorts of
reaction from families some very loving and others not so. I do hope
some of the ones that NEED to see this will get to do so . BLESS you
for this it is wonderful. Iris"
"THANK YOU!"
"Thank you for your
time on this. It is very well done."
"I truly love
Parents' Wish. Thank you."
November 22,
2006
"I received this
beautiful message from my younger sister. I am a sibling of 9 children
and we are going through a lot of 'difficult' unexplainable
issues. My parents are now older and are the ones that need to be
taken care of and 3 of my siblings and spouses are making their golden
years very sad. I only hope they open this beautiful message up to
help realize all the messages that were given to help them come to
some understanding. Thank you for this and thank you for making me
cry. Sometimes you just need a really good cry."
"I was truly shaken
with love and joy. Whoever made this I thank you and Josh Grobans'
music is fantastic to listen to. I hope all children read this and
pass it on. Thank you for making this film. I cried and you have
written every word I want my children to know. God Bless. Joyce
Shillam"
"A very touching and
inspiring creation. I do salute the webmaster and all the people
involved in doing this wonderful presentation and shall be looking
forward to your Mother's Day message. Keep up the good work!' From a
Filipina Mother in Queens, NY"
"Well my name is
Kevin and my feedback is this: acceptance and understanding of a dying
loved one will always be hard however with experience, wisdom and a
unique understanding of life itself is helpful to accepting this.
Final comment: celebrate the life of a loved one and be happy their
life was meaningful instead of being sad that they're gone. In other
words.. .ya I enjoyed it."
"I can honestly say I
have never been more moved by anything in my life, short of the Gospel
of Jesus Christ. The miraculous job you have done with this
presentation speaks to the very heart and soul of the message given to
us by our Creator. 'Raise up your children in the way they should
go and they will not depart from you.' 'Children, honor your
Mother and your Father'.' May God richly bless you and
everything you lay your hand to. Bobby Kitchen Atlanta ,Georgia"
"My mother is in the
last stage of lung cancer. I cried and cried and cried, then it hit me
this is what she had been trying to tell me. To let her go and die
with dignity. Thank You."
"Enjoyed this so
much. I am a senior citizen now and I do hope my kids will understand
as I get older and have patience with me. The younger generation
should read this and prepare for what is coming with their parents.
Aging gracefully is very difficult. Love Josh Groban's music."
"I love this
slideshow and have sent it to my girls but I have a son who
unfortunately is in jail. I was wondering if I could get just the
words and your permission so I can send him a hard copy. @}--"
"I was so moved by
this video. My father is suffering from Alzheimer's and it made me
stop and remember his daily struggles."
"That was one of the
most beautiful e-mails I have ever received. I sent it to both my
children, and my wife and I match that category since I am 82 and my
wife is 79. We both cried."
November 21,
2006
"That was one of the
most beautiful e-mails I have ever received. I sent it to both of our
children. I'm sure they will love it just as my Wife and I did. We
cried very hard through all of it because we meet that category since
I am 82 and my Wife is 79 and neither are in good health. Thank you so
much. Harold and Virginia Dorsen. Des Plaines, IL"
"I just received this
from my Mom and cried. I lost both of my grandparents within the last
2 years. I Loved them both so much. When I saw this slideshow I'm so
glad that someone else out there knows how it really is when we get
old and I hope it touches everyone like it did to me. Bless you..
Sandy"
"The most touching
and heart warming tribute ever. I sent it to all my friends and family
so they could experience it and send it to their friends and family."
"I saw this and
cried. I am 64 and took care of my mother and father until they died.
I never married and sacrificed a lot but I knew and understood what
this said. The problem is I began to forget it 10 years ago after my
darling Mother left me. Thank you for reminding me. She was a
wonderful wonderful woman and my Daddy was dear to me. I look forward
to seeing them on earth soon in the resurrection when age and
infirmity do not exist and we can live forever, parent and child,
friends, and children of Jehovah God and His Son Christ Jesus. Linda
B"
"This is so beautiful
and touching that I cried all the way through it. I am only 60 but am
very ill with heart problems that cannot be solved with
surgery...cannot have surgery...they said I wouldn't survive it. Am on
meds for it instead...it is either meds or heart transplant, and was
turned down for that. I hope all my family and friends will watch it,
as I sent it to them. Now that we know what is wrong, people are very
patient with me....but were not particularly so before. When my
grandma got old and helpless, I took care of her...and this movie made
me think of her. Thanks for the God inspired movie. Elaine, Kansas."
"Thank you for making
this inspirational message available."
"I am a Social Worker
and work in a Nursing Home. I think this would be wonderful to
show our families and staff."
November 20,
2006
"The first time I
heard this it is so beautiful and emotional. I have shared it with
anyone and everyone I can send this beautiful video. It tells it like
it is. I am going to be 64 very soon and I know to send this to my
children was sort of thoughtful if I should. Then I remembered my
parents and grandparents. It is a most beautiful tribute to life and
living. It is a God and human made chain of events where children take
on another love for their parents and it is God's way for us. Thank
you again. Judy Pribyl, Minnesota"
"I just wept when I
watched the slide show."
"My brother sent this
to me on my computer, and I truly cried... Our parent had been gone
for a while now, but this had touch my heart as well as my soul...."
"Outstanding!"
"Beautiful message. I
am only 53 and my kids get upset with me. The ride is just beginning.
Praying you keep the messages going. I love elderly people. Most
awesome people we can learn so much from them even after they have
raised us. God bless. Deb Kohl"
"This is so very,
very beautiful, and I am so glad that a friend shared it with me."
"I just received this
from my sister-in-law. She has a tendency to send me some odd things.
When I started the movie I wasn’t sure what I expect. As soon as I
heard Josh Groban's music I got a little choked up. As the movie
progressed and I read the captions and looked at the pictures I had to
fight back the tears. My mother lost her 5 year fight with ovarian
cancer 2 years ago. As the movie progressed I could relate to every
thing it was saying and showing. I’m at work right now and trying to
keep the tears in as I tell you how beautiful and important this movie
is. Until you experience this in real life and can relate first hand
to this, we need to be reminded sometimes of all those things our
parents have done for us as we were growing up and that at some point
they will need us to do the same. Putting Josh’s music in the back
ground makes it all the more moving to me since I started to listen to
his music towards the end with my mother because his voice and words
are soothing and comforting. I just started to be able to listen to
his music again without crying and remembering the loss. Now I listen
and remember the love my mother had for me and my family all here
life. If at any point you do make a CD of this please contact me.
Sincerely yours, Tim Kelledy, Long Island, NY"
"This is all fine and
dandy, provided you had good parents who loved and cared for you. What
should the conscientious and formerly neglected child think and feel
as he or she is forced to be the caretaker for an aging parent who now
burdens their soul in new ways?"
"I have just watched
and read your piece. I have my mom who is 82 and she's having age
related problems such as forgetfulness, anger and seems resentful and
I on the other hand I was looking for ways to help her and she seemed
to get even more hostile. Seeing this affirms to me to just keep
remembering that this woman cared for 4 children, who had a wonderful
marriage to our Dad, who is gone now. At first I was at wits end but I
get it now, PATIENCE is all I need and LOVE she always gave us!
THANK-YOU."
November 19,
2006
"Thank you so much
for developing this slide show and your perseverance in finding a web
hosting provider. In the last 2 ½ months my siblings and I have found
ourselves joining millions of children caring for aging parents. This
is absolutely beautiful and it truly touched my heart in ways that I
find difficult to put into words."
"WOW! A friend of
mine sent me this. I was deeply touched by it. My dad has had three
strokes, and he will never be the same. While Parents' Wish really
tugged at my heart, it was truly inspirational. I am my father's
caregiver, and I see him struggling everyday. Our lives are really a
role reversal. Parents' Wish really says it all. How True! I wish that
every son or daughter could see this page. The most important thing
that we can give to our parents is TIME. It goes by so fast and it's
amazing how just spending a little bit of TIME can make a world of
difference in an aging parents life. I live it everyday!"
"Fantastic! I am
caring for my Mom and I really needed this. A friend sent it to me,
and I will listen to it every day.. until I get it right! It is hard
to become your parent's parent, but more important is slowing down in
today's world long enough to let them still know they are loved and to
feel that they are being heard, cared for, and have a place in this
world!!"
"I, too, found this
film very thought provoking. I am 75, my husband is 77. As I read and
followed the story, I immediately thought that our children should see
it now. I have had numerous minor health problems in recent years and
my comment to our three children was that there are days when our
future inabilities seem closer than we like to think. Thank you for
giving us this piece to pass on to other."
"Actually I knew this
video presentation about PARENT WISH from my friend, and when I read
every words that is written on the presentation, it really touch my
heart and everytime I watch this - I always CRY!! Even though I am not
a mom yet but I know exactly how they feel, especially I'm a daughter
and I grew up with my mom (single mom) so I exactly know how my mom
feel when she grows old. Yeah this is very powerful and touching
presentation. It made me realize more how I should understand more
about how my mom feels and what she wants when she grows old. For my
beloved mom: I promise you, Mom, that I'll love always you, understand
you, and to always be with you and accompany you when you grow old.
This is very good and brilliant idea though to distribute this video
presentation to the whole world so we will respects and love our
parents more and more. Really thanks for this site, it's really a
great and excellent job!! Thanks."
"You think of
everything! Thank you."
November 18,
2006
"I thank my friend
for finding this and sending it to me. Very touching, heart warming
and speaks the truth for older generation. I've shared it with all my
email friends. So touching and it gets right to the point with things.
It's just breath taking and think that we need more of these type of
video's for people of all ages to see. Hope to be seeing more of this
type."
"OH MY! I have
avoided opening this for sometime--- then I wrote you a book about how
fantastic it was and my own encounters- but in short I recently lost
the most precious person in my life my father and am now caring for my
mother--- I was a single parent and I always hope I won't be a burden
to my children. I am a nurse and I see many little fragile people so
alone. What a powerful message."
"I am in this very
situation at this moment, and it really got to me! It was beautiful."
"WOW! I was almost
instantly in tears and loved every minute of your slideshow. It is so
true, so absolutely true, but somewhat also scary at the honesty.
Thanks so much."
"I am a nursing
instructor and gerontology is my area of expertise. I think this is a
very moving and valuable piece for my students, family and others."
"I'd forgotten how
very much I miss my Mom and Dad; thanks for helping me to remember
that."
"I was a hospice
volunteer for 9 years and I really love the elderly people. I loved
this presentation. Some kids do try to force their parents to eat,
thinking they are helping, but they get sick and throw up. I'm glad
you mentioned not to force them to eat. I think as many people
should see this presentation as possible. God bless you!"
"I think this was
done with a good heart, but that it is a guilt trip that I wouldn't
want to burden my children with. If our children want, from deep
within their hearts, to take care of us when we need to be taken care
of, so be it. I hope that we raised them to care enough about their
parents to do what is right, without our reminding them of every
little thing we ever did for them. If not, then we didn't do all that
we should have for them as they were growing up. By the way...the song
WAS beautiful."
"This is a very nice
presentation."
"This brought tears
to my eyes. Primarily because it made me remember when my kids were
young and, as a stay-at-home Mom, I was able to do all these things
myself, as they matured and were able to do them for themselves. And
because I know they will do all the things that are in this message. I
only had 2 kids (both wonderful boys), but this sure brings fond
memories, and reminds me of my 2 young grandsons. Only 2 exclusions -
my boys LOVED a bath. Playing at bathtime was the highlight of their
day. And I hope I never reach a time when I want to die. I know that
if I ever get to the point I have no mind (such as severe Alzheimer's)
or am totally incapacitated, I do not want to be 'forced' into
living, by extreme measures. All I want is 'keep me as pain-free as
possible', and if I still am aware, visit when you can. Signed,
one of the luckiest Moms in the world."
November 17,
2006
"I have been a single
parent for the past 20 years, and still have one at home, and can only
hope that my children love me half as much as I loved them throughout
their lives growing up. This was beautiful."
"I just watched the
parent's letter and was absolutely enchanted by the words and the
pictures that were on it. I enjoyed the letter and took time to
remember things that I had realized that I forgot about my own
grandparents and wished I had just one more day, even one hour with
them again."
"I really enjoyed
your pass-on. I think a lot of people need to be reminded about how
the elderly feel. This site made me think about this and reminded how
I would feel if that was me. Thought it was a real good site to pass
on. Thanks a lot. Deb"
November 16,
2006
"I just received this
in an email from a friend and have listened and read it several times.
I'm having trouble breathing right now because my crying has blocked
up my nasal passages! It would be great if everyone could get a chance
to see this and the work that has gone into it. Maybe some parents
will see a bit of gratitude from their kids before it is too late. I
am so grateful for every moment I (and my brothers and sisters) have
been given to be with Mom. GOD has surely blessed us with a GOD
fearing and loving Mother who raised us right and saw that we got to
church. This beautiful woman will celebrate her 87th. Birthday this
coming Sunday. GOD Bless You Mom, and Thank You Jesus for her."
"This most powerful
message is one we want to keep for our young children as we grow old
with them."
"Very beautiful. I
was touched and I remember my late parents. How I wish my kids can see
this so that they will know how a parent is. Thank you. More power,
God bless... Inday"
"With me getting
older, my children seem like they don't understand me and what is
going on. This piece of artwork said all the things I am feeling. Keep
up the good work. I cried like a baby because it was like I was
talking to my children."
"This is very
beautiful and Josh Groban and this song is my favorite. When I
am at my lowest and I hear this song and Josh singing, it will lift me
up. I am a 77 year old granny and have been very ill for 3 months.
Thank for this email. It made my day."
"I'm a little nervous
to send this to a son whose mother I care for. It really touched my
heart immensely. And it is so true. God bless all the elderly folks.
My parents are already deceased. My mother at age 24 and my father at
age 61. My 3rd mother is whom I'll care for if necessary. She was the
best. And I bathe and dress and play with this elderly woman I care
for. I totally understand. It brings her happiness just to see her son
once in awhile. Thank you!!!"
"Thank you, this is
so true .Our mother is 92. She has said to us that she's tired
and wants the Lord to take her home. This is hard for us as we love
her so much and don't won't to lose her. That stops today, as we need
to let her know its ok to go and how thankful we have been to have her
this long. This has helped me to understand how she feels and that one
day I may be where she is and need the kids to let go also. I did
forward this to them. Hilliard. FL.
"I am in the
eldercare non-medical health field and this is one of the most
touching and informative pieces I have ever seen on this subject."
"I want to thank you
for this encouraging and inspiring email. My Dad has Alzheimer's and
since losing Mom and both my brothers it is just the two of us left.
It breaks my heart to see him forget things he has known all his life
and it bothers him, too. I try so hard not to lose my patience with
him but am ashamed to say there are times that I do get frustrated and
a little short tempered. I know he cannot help it and I get angry with
myself for not being more understanding. I cannot tell you how many
times I have watched and listened to this and enjoyed it. I feel much
better, mentally, after hearing it. In my opinion you could not have
found better background music than Josh's song."
"Me and my wife love
this slide-show so much that we thought of our parents especially ME,
as I always scold my MOM when she talks over and over again. I didn't
realize not until now that I owe everything to her. We have a daughter
now whose 18 years old and I really wanted her to read and see this as
she always fight/misunderstanding with her Mom. Hopefully this
slideshow will one day help her out what a parents is all about.
Thanks again and more power to you and your staff. Neil-Lan"
November 15,
2006
"All I can say
is..... I can NEVER watch this without crying! My brother sent this to
me, for my dad 83 years old has developed Alzheimer's. And every
sentence in the slide show is EXACTLY what is going on today in my
father's life. Makes you also STOP and realize, that not only is your
parent going backwards in life to being a child again. It's a STRONG
reminder of what they did for us as children. Even though I myself am
a parent, but you tend to forget that you are a parent because the
decrease in seeing your parents go through .... ONLY brings the CHILD
back out in YOU! Thank You and I have forwarded this link to many many
people....From my heart to yours, Roseanne ( Michigan)"
"I am 63 and my
parents are 90 and 86. The song brought tears to my eyes because of
the great love it reminded me of. Thank you for your inspiration."
"I was very touched
by this and cried through the whole thing because I lost both my
parents and I miss them every single day. My father has been gone for
7 years and my mom for 5, but I think of them and pray for them every
single day. I passed this on to all my friends because it really
touched me. I remember when my mom was very ill and told me she
wanted to die. I was so sad, but I did understand why she wanted
God to take her. Your presentation brought that memory back and the
fact that my parents although not with me physically, will be with me
always. Thank you for such a wonderful and heartwarming presentation.
God bless you. Olga Shibtini"
"One of the most
lovely and poignant presentations, either email or on paper that I
have ever read. Also I do adore Josh Groban and the background song he
sings. I have reached the time of my life where this is very apropro
for my children to be viewing. It also applies to many friends of
mine, therefore I shall be sending it on to them to forward to their
children. Thank you so much. G-d bless"
"Thank you so much
for making this slide show. My daughter who is in nurse's training
sent it to me. It made me cry because I believe she understands how I
feel about all of the things mentioned in the show. I also feel it
gave her a powerful insight, not only for her work, but into my life
as it sometimes is and also might become. Thanks again."
"I am 75 and my
husband is 83 and we are in exceptionally good health but with the
condition of health insurance, extended care facilities and the threat
of abuse on many fronts, this brought tears to my eyes. I have not
cried since the care of my late husband and his death after a 6 year
terminal illness, 17 years ago, but this is such a call to a reality
check, tears are the only means of processing the message. Every
person, no matter the age, should benefit by this beautiful rendition
- every bit of it. Glenita Rosebery-Domansky"
"This made me cry. It
is so beautiful. Both of my parents have passed on now, my father
February 16, 2006. This touched my heart and my soul. It addresses the
issues of letting them live while helping where they need it, and
letting them go when they have had enough. May others who view this
treasure each and every moment they have and understand where their
parents are coming from. Thank you for the joy this gave me this
morning. I will treasure it. Pamela"
"I just loved the
slideshow! I thought it was wonderful! Keep up the good work."
November 14,
2006
"This is beautiful!
Thanks for making this."
"I loved it , and
send it to our son, keep up the good work."
"This beautifully
executed and poignant piece is a great vehicle for an aging parent to
express themselves to their children. Children oftentimes refuse to
admit that their parents are diminishing, and their lives are ebbing,
as their ultimate death is inevitable. Since the demise of a beloved
parent is extremely painful, this is a great reminder of one's
mortality, and how precious and fragile life really is. Hopefully,
this wish will serve to make our children more aware and sensitive to
our needs. Thank you."
"God Bless You for
this slideshow! I am 38 years old and cried like a baby - but more in
a grateful way than anything. After I watched your show I wrote my
parents, both living, a letter, something I haven't done since college
and thanked them for all the love and nurturing they gave me growing
up. I wish you and those responsible for this fantastic work of art
many blessings in return and God's peace be with you always. And thank
you for reminding people everywhere to be patient with each other. Tim
Grim Grimes, Iowa"
"This was the most
guilt laden pathetic piece of propaganda I have seen!"
"This is so powerful
that words can not describe it. Thank you and I look forward to
hearing when the CD is available."
"This is so beautiful
and shows life's journey from birth to death. It is such an
inspiration and heart warming. I lost my mom 4 months ago, my dad 7
years ago ~ this is an awesome tribute to Parents. I am forwarding
this to my daughters and other email buddies. I think it will touch a
lot of hearts. Thank you for this amazing realistic message. God
Bless. DJ from NJ"
November 13,
2006
"I cannot begin to
tell you how touching this was. My parents are still alive and well
but I pray that when they do need my help that I am strong enough and
have enough patience to go thru what I will have to go thru for them.
May God give me the strength to be there for them the way they have
always been there for me and mine. With God’s help I will be there for
them every step of the way until we meet again in heaven."
"I love this and it
hits home because I have my mother in a home. PLEASE let me know when
I can receive a copy. Thanks so much for sharing it me and everyone."
"Thank you, it is a
very moving song and it touches the heart."
"When I feel my
husband and I are getting old, I would like a copy for my self. I will
share with my wonderful children. I hope if we ever can not take care
of our self, our children will be there for us as I was for my Mom."
"This is a beautiful
WEBSITE......... Really touched my heart most of all each and every
word is true to life.... Please keep this going. I sent this to my
parents and email to my friends and my daughter as well. I can tell
you I love this website.. kellie"
"A great production."
"That was very moving
... it brought me to tears ... especially at the end ... thank you for
the beautiful music and emotional video! Terri T."
"I LOVED Parents'
Wish. I sent it to my children and all of my friends."
"I want to express my
gratitude to your website. In January of 2006 I lost my Father due to
the many complications that encompass diabetes. And during his last
two weeks that we had with him, we were able to spend quality time and
understood that he was tired of the operations and just simply tired.
He lived a long life and raised 5 children who never did without
anything while growing up and was still there for us as adults. My mom
who suffers from Alzheimer's disease still has yet to understand that
my dad is gone, which I sometimes think is a blessing. But watching
the powerpoint keeps everything in perspective for me, especially now
that I am a parent. I love your site and share it with all of my loved
ones and friends just to get us through the day. Thanks again!"
"My Dad died
September 21, 2006 and he was a stroke patient. I have heard my sister
and mother say some of those same things to him and it really touched
my heart. We don’t understand what is happening when they give up so
we try to make them hold on but we have to remember they are the
parents and we are the children even if the roles seemed reversed at
times. I love you Daddy and will always remember. Love, Juanie"
"Thank you. It's so
beautiful. It touches me and trembles my nerves. I'm a parent too. how
I wish my sons see this movie. Seeing this reminds me my parents who
have than their best for me. May they rest in peace amen. To Mama
Casiana and Papa Luis, you've done your job well! I miss you soo
much..."
"As an adult daughter
with children, I was sandwiched between both the emotions as a child
and as a parent. I just cried though the entire slide show. What a
wonderful job. I will definitely pass this on to many others. Thanks
for the reminder to give what I want."
"This presentation
must truly have been inspired by the Holy Spirit… this is why there is
so much thought-provoking sentiment in every line of this
presentation. What is most significant in this beautiful presentation
is that it incites the reader to step back and take a look at elders.
The present generation who live a fast paced, in some cases
emotionless lives, being hell-bent on besting all around them to
achieve that high position, social standing, material things, real
estate, clawing their way up the social or corporate ladder or both,
they do not even realize that they have lost sight of the values
instilled in them by their parents. Instead we see elders being placed
in the hands of care-givers who may or may not have their best
interest at heart, to whom it may be just another job This gift of
being able to care for our elders, is God given and we fail Him and
ourselves, if we do not recognize the importance of accepting God’s
gift to US to repay all the years of love, care, sacrifice and
kindness they have showered on us in our growing years and even gone
to the extent of doing the same for our children too. May the Lord
bless this writer with more courage and wisdom to open the eyes and
hearts of those of us who, through neglect or otherwise, have closed
them tight to sharing love with those who have not counted the cost in
showing their’s for us. Thank you and God bless you."
November 12, 2006
"I have tears in my
eyes as I am reading this. My Mom who is 84 has lived with us for at
least 14 years. I have found myself getting impatient over some of the
things that have happened, but will think of this video. My husband
has more patience than I do and so does my son. I thank God they are
here to straighten me out. Now my Mother-in-law is moving near us, but
she will be living on her own. I will remember this video."
"My daughter in law
sent this to me. It is so beautiful and so true. I have six children
and they are all giving of them selves to others. I am 85 and still
working. Thank you for the words and song. I am a chaplain in prisons
so I know the need of some of the older ones."
November 11, 2006
"Absolutely
beautiful!! So sad, yet realistic!! I absolutely cried like a baby
throughout the film. Memories of my own parents. (passed away). Struck
a chord of guilt, OH YEAH!! how impatient we all were with our beloved
parents!! We need more reminders of how short our lives actually are,
perhaps, SOMEDAY, we may actually get OUR PRIORITIES straight!!!!
Thank you!! Immensely enjoyed this poignant video!!!"
"I was so beautiful,
so true, it brought tears to my eyes. Than you."
"There are no words
to say how deeply I was touched by this lovely, compassionate message.
We all think our parents will live to old age. I wept and wept
viewing this show. Josh's voice and music were a blessing beyond
compare and as a born-again Christian, I felt very strongly he the
presence of the Holy Spirit on me so this means, to those who have
never received Jesus, that this is a spiritual piece that will touch
people's hearts and spirits. God asks us to Love one Another and To
Bear One Another's Burdens and seeing these pictures and having the
music to go with it; this show is bearing with others as they have
sorrow either because their loved one died or is dying as well as just
being old. Please thank Josh for us and all the people involved in
making this item that is blessing so many'. My husband and mine names
are Paul and Suzanne McNeil, Dover-Foxcroft, Maine."
"WOW! This is the
best thing that I have ever seen that really helps one understand just
what we are going through! I am only 60 and have a myriad of things
that have gone wrong. My greatest wish would be to not have these
things and to be able to work or, at least, go fly fishing again. But,
I can't. Your video really shares just how it is to be so very
incapacitated and I really appreciate what your message is and has
done for me. It will make it much easier to share this with family,
letting them, hopefully, understand just what it is that we go
through. God Bless you for your great effort and please, as others
have stated, keep them coming! Paul from Washington State."
"I have just viewed
Parents' Wish and it is so very touching. It brought tears to my eyes
intensely. I only wish that everyone should watch it. I truly hope
that this is still out there in the years to come for the next
generations to come to see and think about how us parents all over the
world think and feel when we are at our golden years. Thank you so
very much for making this."
"Of all the e-mails
that I have seen this one is by far the best. We need more like this
and not the garbage on the internet. Al Cook, Cape Coral, FLA."
"I thought this would
be just another e-mail when I opened it. How wrong I was. It made me
cry. Excellent job!"
"After seeing this,
my husband now wants to go see his Mother for Thanksgiving. He is now
close to her at all. Thanks for giving us this beautiful display of
how it is to be older and the immense love they have for their
children."
"Just wanted to thank
you for this site and the music and text."
November 10, 2006
"I think it was
beautiful. I would only change one thing…sign it your loving parent as
nowadays there are so many divorced parents, the child may feel
awkward."
"I viewed this slide
show at a seminar that was covering falls, behaviors and pain the
nursing home setting. I have been a nurse in long term care for 11
years. This show was incredible!! I will show this to my staff that
take care of mid to late stage dementia. I'm sure it will touch their
hearts as it has mine. Thank You very much for reminding me why I'm in
the field I am. AS"
"This is so
wonderful. Thank you so much. It would be really nice if there was a
choice of just 'mom' or 'dad' in the event, as in my case, it would be
just from 'mom', but I am going to send it on anyway because of the
beautiful message shared between generation."
"As a parent and
grandparent who has had two parents live in our home until their time
to go, this song and message has brought beautiful memories and
thoughts of our own mortality. I have never been so overwhelmed as
with the inspiration and thoughtfulness of this message. May GOD bless
you."
"EXCELLENT! Now, make
one with the Bett Midler song 'Wind Beneath My Wings' Keep 'em
coming."
"This was one of the
finest presentations that my Husband and I have ever seen. It sure
brought tears to both of us. Thank you...Bud and Shirley"
"The music and the
sentiment were truly beautiful but I wish there were more mothers in
the pictures. They are all men. We mothers did a lot in the raising of
our children too."
"My husband and I
manage a retirement facility where we live on site. There are days we
are on duty 24 hours a day. Your web site brought me to tears and gave
me the inspiration to keep on giving. This generation needs so little,
but they need that 'little' so very much. I hope your site
inspires the adult children to visit, send little notes and even
flowers. We see the joy when the children do this for their parents;
we see the deep sadness when there is little or no contact. This truly
is the greatest generation."
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